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Posts Tagged ‘Marriage’

Staying Together for the Kids

Tuesday, May 21st, 2013

I hope you had a great weekend. It was a long weekend in Canada, Victoria Day Weekend to be precise, and it was wonderful to rest, relax and regroup. My kids went back to school this morning after a 6-day break (hallelujah), I went back to the gym, and life returned to normal.

I was chatting with some moms last week about quite a heavy topic, and it took me back to something that happened a couple of years ago. I remember it clearly – at the time, I was grabbing a salad for the road and on the way to my son’s school to serve hot lunch to 650 students. Never one to skip a meal, I was waiting for my salad, when I bumped into an old friend’s sister. I actually found out on Facebook that this old high school friend had recently separated from her husband. Unfortunately, they also had two young children. I proceeded to ask the sister, “How is your sister doing?” To which she replied, “My sister seems much happier and he seems much happier too, so I guess good for them, but I’m not so sure about the kids. I have a different point of view than her. Who’s happy? Who is living in marital bliss? Sometimes you have to suck it up, and stay for the sake of the kids.”

In fact, we hear things like this quite often: couples divorcing after 25 and 30 years of marriage. When you ask many of them why, often they’re quick to answer, “I couldn’t break up my family. I stayed for the kids.”

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How To Add Spice and Romance To Your Relationship With Feng Shui

Friday, May 17th, 2013

By Guest Blogger Kathryn Weber

When it comes to slipping between the sheets, the last thing you’re probably thinking about is feng shui in your bedroom. Yet it’s the feng shui of your bedroom that could just make the difference between a so-so romantic experience and an overarching deity of oohs and aaahs.

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Bedroom parity can solve the bedroom rarity of solid and satisfying sex for both partners. Yes it can. How can that be? Well, think about your bedroom as a symbol of your relationship. Is it broken down in the middle like the mattress and filled with laptops and tablets, similar to the way your work intrudes in on your love life?

Maybe you have a stack of books a foot tall next to the bed. What does that say about what the bedroom is for? To get your love life into a new gear, take a good look around. If your bedroom says mommy and daddy, exercise, work, reading, shopping or any other word besides rest and romance, there’s a problem.

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A Dating Anniversary: 18 Years

Monday, April 29th, 2013

This weekend my husband and I celebrated EIGHTEEN YEARS TOGETHER. Eighteen years, OY! I had just turned 20 years old the day we shared our first kiss, April 27th, 1995.

So as an ode to my husband, and for my new readers who have never read it, here is our story…

There was a boy:

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There was a girl:

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On Settling

Monday, February 4th, 2013

By Guest Blogger Elizabeth Denham

I never thought divorce would happen to me. I had a friend who was going through one at the same time that I was. Her favorite thing to say was, “I didn’t get married to get divorced.” Really? ‘Cause I did! Planned it from the start! After countless times of hearing this precious little phrase, I wanted to knock this girl to kingdom come.

So there I was, 33 years old, three kids, and divorced. My three boys were ages were 3, 5 and 7 by the time the Big D was done. I didn’t consider dating for about a year. Then came boredom. Now believe me, with three boys ages 7 and younger, there is little time for true boredom. But there is this sense of boredom with being alone, or maybe it is just the evolution into readiness to date.

How do you even begin to date? I had begun accumulating divorced friends. It is a real phenomenon. Once you are divorced, single/divorced friends magically appear. It was either that, or people started dropping like flies into divorce. I had a few friends and we tried going out. There were men who would ask for my phone number. If they “seemed normal” and I gave it out, most of the time there was never a call. There were the young men. At 33 and beyond, I began to feel like one of the oldest people in the bar. If a guy younger than 30 hit on me, I wanted to know what bet he was trying to win. It was not flattering or funny.

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Sexual Skin

Friday, January 18th, 2013

By Guest Blogger Tara Baboushkin

I was one of the last of my friends to have sex. Yup, I admit it, practically a whole year behind the rest of my group. Now, that’s not to say that I wasn’t sexual, I just wasn’t having any sex. Like my other friends, I had a boyfriend, I went to grad – in short, I had opportunity. But I didn’t have sex.

So what does that make me? A prude, a priss, a “good girl”? By some standards, yes. By male standards, definitely. Perhaps even by some of your standards too. By my own standards, however, I was anything but.

The truth is that I was, in fact, very sexual and very sexually curious. From a young age, the idea of sexual intimacy as an expression of emotion and love fascinated me. I was always asking my parents to “TV kiss” (in other words, smooch) in front of me to show me they were really “in love.” Like most young girls, I fantasized about kissing my fifth-grade crush and slow-dancing with the cutest boy at the Saturday night camp dance.

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Party’s Over. Back To Reality. And No, I’ve Got No Plan.

Tuesday, January 8th, 2013

Hello, I’m back! Back in the groove. Kids are at school. I’m at my computer. Happy 2013 my beautiful ladies!

For the first time in over three years, I did not check in once while on a blogging hiatus. I felt guilty for not connecting with you these past two weeks, but I really wanted to decompress, rest my head, spend time with my family, and be fresh for 2013. I feel ready.

Well not really.

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The Little Things are the Big Things

Friday, November 2nd, 2012

I don’t often share the press we receive, but yesterday, two nice interviews came out and I wanted to share them with you. One of the interviewers used my answer to title the article. I’m so glad they did, because it is how I feel. The little things truly ARE the big things in life. I don’t think we realize this enough.

I was honored to be named ‘Super Mom of the Week’ on a great website Big City Moms that features super moms. Looking at the list of women, I am humbled to be in their company.

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