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Posts Tagged ‘Friendship’

The Art of Giving – OF Yourself, and TO Yourself

Friday, January 22nd, 2010

Our Man On The Fence has chosen his topic, and is making his fourth guest appearance.

Here he is, our very own Guest Blogger, Man On The Fence.

Welcome back, Mystery Man!

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Hi Ladies,

I’m BAAACK!!! This Blog post is applicable to both sexes, and could be used as a guideline for all people seeking the better things that life has to offer.

Many years ago, a Rabbi told me that by giving an EXTRA ONE percent of daily effort, I could self-improve by 365% by years’ end! Surely it seemed like a rather ridiculous pronouncement at the time, but as I have matured and learned, I see his words ring true.

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The People You Meet

Monday, January 18th, 2010

Life can be funny. Gifts comes in strange places. Support is all around.

Friday afternoon, I tweeted about TGIF, and about my favorite day of the week when I enjoy a nice dinner with my family, a good glass of Cabernet, and 20/20 (my favorite). However, this Friday night didn’t quite turn out the way I had planned. These things always happen to us for some reason. We often have these emergencies, which in the end, turn out to be nothing serious, but scare us just the same.

Friday night at 7PM, we found ourselves sitting in the emergency room– hubby and myself. There’s a point to this story at the end, so stay with me.

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The Dark Side of Friendship

Wednesday, January 13th, 2010

There are tall ships
There are small ships
But the best ships
Are friendships…

Unless of course, when the friend takes her life frustrations out on you, dumps her baggage all over you, and acts aggressively towards you.

Yes, this Blog post is about the dark side of friendship. Reason being– you asked for it.

To be honest, I have not had too many toxic friendships over the years. I was never one of those bitchy girls either. I was raised to talk to everyone and I always had friends in many circles. I never liked cliques. But many of you have written in about the friends you’ve dropped, dumped and severed ties with.

One mom wrote in about her best friend’s daughter taunting  her own daughter and belittling her on Facebook. Ew! Another woman wrote in about her long time friend who was in a bad marriage, and out of jealousy, was gossiping and badmouthing her behind her back. Disgusting! These toxic friendships are unsupportive, draining, unrewarding and can be suffocating. Toxic friends stress you out and are generally one sided, whereby you don’t get back nearly half as much as you put in.

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Taking The Road Less Traveled

Friday, November 20th, 2009

So, I was having lunch with an old client/friend of mine this week. It was great. We reconnected over sushi and wine. Yummy food, yummy wine, yummy company. We hadn’t seen each other in over three years we calculated, because the last time she saw me, she said I was pregnant. Yeesh for her! But, you know those friends that you don’t see often, and the minute you lay eyes on each other, you pick right back up where you left off? She’s that kinda friend.

We started yapping away. Neither one of us could get a word in edge-wise. She filled me in on her relationship with her boyfriend that had started out completely platonic. She told me of her epiphany around turning 45 this year, and that has she has decided she to sell her condo in the city, and build a house of her own on a patch of land away from the hustle and bustle, amidst her herb and vegetable garden. And that she had made the big decision not to move in with her boyfriend in the end. She is used to her own space, and doesn’t not want to “wreck” a good thing. He has kids of his own from a previous marriage, she is a graphic designer and enjoys her quiet.

I filled her in on my life. I told her of my decision to sell my business three years ago to be home with the boys. The Blog. My hubby. Life in general. Picket fences, and settling into married life and mommyhood.

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Secrets & Lies

Monday, November 9th, 2009

Have you ever cut the price tag off a new dress so your boyfriend or husband wouldn’t find out what it REALLY cost? Have you ever told your friend she looks thin and great when in fact she looks awful? Have you ever secretly been attracted to someone other than your partner? Have you ever lied about how much money you make? Have you ever covered up for your kids? Have you gotten Botox and not disclosed? Have you ever faked an orgasm?

Well, if you have ladies, you’re not alone. Women are secret keepers and liars it just so happens! But what do women hide, and what do they tell? Studies show that women keep secrets from their spouses about anything from having an eating disorder, to spending, to stuff about the kids. They also show that women keep secrets from other women about weight, cheating on partners, and about the achievements of their children. Finally, studies show that baby boomers, those in the highest income brackets, and married couples are more secretive than all other.

Now I remember all too well when my husband, (who was my boyfriend at the time), bought me a gold bracelet for our one-year “going out” anniversary. I had received a huge teddy bear for our six-month anniversary all complete with roses… aww what a romantic! But the gold bracelet came after the year. And let me tell you, man was it U-G-L-Y. I mean, not to him of course. He told me it took him an hour to choose it. It was this mix of white and yellow gold that came braided together in a snake-like fashion. I must have been a great liar/actress, cuz when I saw it, I so “honestly” blurted out, “It’s gorgeous! I love it!” Only after we were married did I tell him the bracelet was so damn ugly, I shuttered every time I looked down at my wrist. And so, recently, at a friend’s Gold Party, I hocked it for cash! Am I the best wife or what??

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Old Friends, New Friends

Friday, September 25th, 2009

Friends! I love my friends. Growing up as an only child was quite lonely. I had always wanted an older sibling, preferably an older brother. A brother to come home to who would beat me up, someone to try smoking with, and teach me the ropes in life. Well, no such sibling ever came before nor after me, so I made due with the next best thing… friends. Older friends, younger friends. I had my core group, but never stuck exclusively to them. I always had friends in many circles. Friends for “a reason and a season.” And it continued over the years. My high school friends, my college friends, my carpool friends, my golf friends, my work friends, friends through my children, my old friends, my new friends. I love them all. They all hold a very special place in my heart.

When thinking of the old ones, there’s nothing quite like your old friends. Your friends you have that history with… that connection with.Your best friend since elementary school. Your neighbor you grew up with that you still keep in touch with. You just have that bond, that deep history together.

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