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Posts Tagged ‘bulimia’

Dear Eating Disorder

Tuesday, August 20th, 2013

Please note Dear ED is not Dear Erica Diamond. It is a letter written by Marci Warharf-Nadler to her eating disorder. In writing this letter seven years ago, Marci was finally closing a chapter in her life– letting go of a destructive past. Marci was kind enough to share this candid letter with us, in hopes of shedding light on the destruction of eating disorders. In sharing this letter, she also shows us the raw process of letting go of belief systems that no longer serve us, and how writing can be a cathartic process to overcome suffering.

In Marci’s words (to clarify below): Billy was my older brother who died when he was 21 and I was 17. (My father left when I was 10 years old, so Billy became the male role model in my life and I adored him). My mother died from breast cancer when she was 56. My mom and I were insanely close and she died while I was pregnant with my first born. I got sick in 2000 with an illness that confused my doctors and nearly killed me. I had one son at home (Dylan, 16 months old) and I was 5 1/2 months pregnant with my second son (Jackson), who couldn’t handle what was going on in my body and didn’t survive. (FYI, I did get pregnant again and had my youngest son Logan, a year later. Both my boys know about the brother they had but lost).

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A Thursday Thought on Suffering in Silence

Thursday, August 8th, 2013

I know many of you will disagree with me today on today’s post, but I wanted to voice my opinion on a news story that broke this week, and how it relates back to all of us.

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Dustin Hoffman. Image via Parade.com

Perhaps you saw the announcement this week that actor Dustin Hoffman is recovering after cancer treatment, and is doing well. “Hoffman is feeling great and in good health,” said his publicist Jodi Gottlieb, noting that the cancer was “detected early and he has been surgically cured.” I wish Dustin Hoffman the healthiest and speediest recovery… he is one of the lucky ones.

But this announcement led me to visit the notion of suffering in silence, as did Angelina Jolie, and do many women I know in my community who announce a struggle AFTER the fact. After they have crossed over to the other side. Once they are “cured,” or “better” or have overcome. So that means, throughout the duration of their suffering, whether it be marital woes, financial troubles, or problems with their children, they stay mum. They suffer in silence. They only disclose once they are luckily on the side of strength. Once they’ve turned the corner.

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Eating Disorders, Dieting and Body Image: One Therapist’s Perspective

Sunday, March 10th, 2013

By Kenneth Bruce, Ph.D, Clinical Psychologist

Being a psychologist is a challenging and intensely rewarding experience.

In my day job, I am a psychologist. Sounds humble enough, right? In my therapy role, I work with many types of patients, but mainly with women who have an eating disorder (usually anorexia or bulimia). It’s the world’s best day job, and I mean that sincerely.

I should probably tell you how I came to be so lucky as to become a psychologist (and to be working mainly with women clients) in the first place. First thing, is that I was blessed with wonderful parents and gentle older siblings. Growing up, my family taught me to respect and help myself and others too. They were all strong and resilient role models, who –happily—also never took themselves too seriously; this made the whole process more fun.

I was lucky also because my family made the repeated point of showing me that women were in some ways different from men, but always equal to them. This left a lasting and positive impression on my attitudes towards both women and men for sure.

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EXCLUSIVE INTERVIEW: Erica Diamond Sits Down With Sophie Grégoire Trudeau

Wednesday, October 5th, 2011

I recently reconnected with a childhood friend, Sophie Grégoire Trudeau, who is as dynamic, passionate and capable as they come. If you are Canadian, you undoubtedly know who she is. Today, we are getting up close and personal with Sophie Grégoire Trudeau. Enjoy…

 

Not many people know this, but we grew up together in Montreal, two prima ballerinas dancing together for many years, both only children, both born in April 1975. It’s so fun to have reconnected with you. Tell us a bit about your childhood as well as your college studies and how you got into TV and communications (notably correspondent for ETalk Daily).

Wow, Erica. We REALLY do go way back (laughing).

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Stop Being So Hard on Yourself

Tuesday, November 2nd, 2010

I watched the beautiful Porta De Rossi on The Oprah Show yesterday. The hour flew by. What an engaging and candid interview. Portia DeRossi, wife of Ellen De Generes, and actress from Ally McBeal and Arrested Development talked openly about her secrets of the past. She was a closeted lesbian, afraid of being “Outed,” and had starved herself down to 82 pounds, and was suffering with bulimia simultaneously.

Portia’s big acting break came when she landed a role on the hit TV series Ally McBeal. Portia says it should have been the best day of her life, but at the time, she felt deeply insecure and undeserving of the job. After her first day on the set of Ally McBeal, Portia says she met her brother at a Mexican restaurant and ate “practically everything on the menu.” Afterward, she sat alone in her car and threw up her entire meal—plus the food she binged on during a post-dinner trip to 7-Eleven.

“I hated purging. It was punishment that I couldn’t stick to a diet,” she says. “I hated binging, [but] binging momentarily gave me relief, because I’d been starving, really. Psychologically, I just wanted to fill the void. But the purging, the purging made me feel more pathetic than just having failed yet another diet.”

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