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Archive for the ‘Stress’ Category

Boobs, Irene and A First Day of School

Monday, August 29th, 2011

They say things come in threes. I can’t remember if it’s good things or bad things, but I definitely remember threes.

Well, it’s been one of those weekends- a mixed bag of threes…. emotional, miserable, sentimental.

It all started Friday with a playdate. I have to thank my neighbor… you know who you are girlfriend, because there you are, like the rising sun… always there, always one to count on. Our kitchens look out onto one another, and with every breakfast and dinner, all the kids wave excitedly to each other. And then the phone usually rings… and then the plan is made…  a playdate! The mom and I get along famously, our kids adore each other. It’s a beautiful thing.

So Friday afternoon, my boys and the neighbors decided to make a lemonade stand. I’m always game for a lemonade stand… kids are contained, busy (not kvetching), and learning some good selling skills! ;) It’s something they do every now and then, and we always find a cause that is “au courant” or near and dear to our hearts to donate the money. Well, this weekend was “The Weekend To End Breast Cancer” in Montreal. But when I asked where they were donating the proceeds, and one of them said, “I’m thinking I want to keep the money and buy something,” I urged them to reconsider. “How about for the kids who don’t have a mommy because she passed away from breast cancer? Let’s help in honor of those families. Let’s kick breast cancer in the butt!”

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5 Life Lessons Learned From My Son’s Near Death Experience

Thursday, August 25th, 2011

By Guest Blogger Ruth Zive

My son was blue, limp, lifeless, silent… essentially dead.  And then in five moments of interminable chaos, stress, hysteria and prayer, my daughter and I brought him back to life.

This day changed everything, and ultimately propelled me off of the fence, in so many important ways.

I found him in the pool, face down and floating.  He wasn’t quite 2-years-old.  It happened in an instant; he was watching a Barney video in my bedroom; I was helping my daughter pack for sleepover camp.  And when I realized he wasn’t where he was supposed to be, I barreled towards the backyard, knowing instinctively that he was there.

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I’ll Loan You My Umbrella: 5 Ways to Face the Tough Times

Friday, July 15th, 2011

By Guest Blogger Carol Roth

Once upon a time, when things were getting a bit rough, someone suggested to me that we run away together to Paris.

It was an extremely romantic notion and for a fleeting moment, thoughts of sitting in a café for the rest of my life eating pain au chocolat (aka chocolate croissants) sounded mighty tempting (and delicious).

But I came to the quick realization that I am not the runaway type.  I am more the stand-in-the-middle-of-a-shit-storm-with-an-umbrella type, because moving to Paris or even plain-old avoiding an issue doesn’t make reality go away.  You can run to the end of the earth, but if you don’t face the tough stuff, it will always haunt you.

While it is tempting to run from uncomfortable situations, problems, challenges or sometimes even opportunities, emotionally or physically taking off will not solve anything.  It just distracts you from your goals and purposes.  And when the going gets tough, those who will persevere are the ones willing to face the storm head on.

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Casey Anthony: On The Fence

Wednesday, July 6th, 2011

I have two words for you: NOT GUILTY.

I have two more words for you: FUCKING GUILTY.

I have two more words for you: REASONABLE DOUBT.

I have two more words for you: NOONE KNOWS (Okay, that’s really three words).

I, along with the rest of the world watched in horror yesterday as the verdict was delivered: NOT GUILTY. Casey Anthony was found not guilty of killing of her two-year old daughter, Cayley Anthony.

I don’t want to wax on about the case that I have followed since day one, but it was a little bit like OJ Simpson all over again… “If the glove doesn’t fit, you must acquit.”

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Crushing The Stigma of Depression

Friday, July 1st, 2011

By Guest Blogger Daisy

The first time I was diagnosed with depression, I took three weeks off from work but still managed to keep my job. I wasn’t sleeping well at night. Worries kept me awake, and when sleep did come, I’d awaken in a head to toe sweat. Stomach aches every Monday morning, heartburn and headaches Sunday nights. There were too many symptoms to ignore.

Thirteen years later I recognized the symptoms again and went to the doctor. Again, I was able to keep working through it. I’m glad I did– I had a boss who wouldn’t have understood depression, and certainly would have thought less of me for having a mental illness.

But then, between me, my doctor and my family, we decided it was time: time to look into a long-term leave. I needed time to recover and heal, both physically and mentally. It was time to really examine my commitment to my teaching career and whether it could weather this kind of conflict. Most of all, it was time to treat this illness called depression. Before I made any kind of decision on my future, I needed to rest. Rest, recover, and feel healthy again — even on Mondays.

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Slow Down

Friday, June 24th, 2011

I may not be the sharpest tool in the shed (although I do pride on myself on being pretty sharp), I can still recognize a sign when it’s flashed my way. And this week, the signs were all around.

This past week, I felt my anxiety level mounting, and I felt myself beginning to vent it onto my children. Shame on me, I hear you. But this is my safe place, so no judgement please. Nothing new had happened, nothing out of the ordinary, just my patience level was wearing thin this week, and instead of enjoying my boys as usual, they were starting to, **GASP** annoy me. The bickering and whining had taken its toll. I knew I had to do something to cage the Elvira, and fast. My children are my life. They take first priority. Over sex. Yes.

My first AHA moment that I needed to slow down, was when I read fellow blogger, Brooke Burke’s Blog. It was titled, “Brooke Gets Bad Mommy Award.” And although there wasn’t a bad exchange of words with my kids in my case, reading Brooke’s words became the first realization that I had to stop myself, and calm the hell down. Change my attitude. Or I was going to screw up a very good thing.

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Wisdom Wednesday: Carrots, Eggs and Coffee

Wednesday, June 15th, 2011

So, you all know my mom sends me some great material. This week was no exception. My mom forwarded this to me a few days ago. It’s pretty deep and I wanted to share it today.

Enjoy and let me know what you think.

You will never look at a cup of coffee the same way again.

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