By Guest Blogger and Author of “The Essentials Fabulous,” Ellen Lubin-Sherman
In an era where professional thank-you’s are sent as text messages, romantic break-ups are done over e-mail, and the sloppy word “Whatever” is tossed around carelessly, the zeitgeist of a self-absorbed society too busy being “fabulous” to be anything but dismissive, we need to stop and return to the timeless qualities which really make a person fabulous.
I’m all for loving my mate on Valentine’s Day, but before I share my secrets on how to be a fabulous lover today, let me take a minute and suggest that we love ourselves first. Yes, I’m serious! Everything that bespeaks a fabulous attitude comes from a sense of self-worth and self-admiration. It is the gravitational pull that moves interesting and exciting people into your life. Which is why I bought a Valentine’s Day card for myself. Yes, yes, I hope I get one from my husband, but even if I don’t, the person I spend the most time with (me) has acknowledged what makes me special.
If you’re married or in a relationship, perhaps you have quirky parts to your relationship. Perhaps you and your partner have little sexy things you like to do. Perhaps you’re the quirky one and he’s the serious one, as in my relationship.
Check out the episode of a new Mom show Mommy To Mommy TV I Co-Hosted with Kimberly Blaine in L.A. at Sony Studios on the set of CBS’s Rules of Engagement.
I have to thank my husband, who saw that my urge to write was so strong this week, that he is now making my boys breakfast downstairs, so that I can get my thoughts out of my brain and onto paper (well, you know what I mean).
2010 was an interesting year. And although I am on vacation, I couldn’t end off 2010 without a recap of a few life lessons learned, memories shared, milestones celebrated, and tough times endured. 2010 was without a doubt, the most interesting year of my life. This was my year ‘off the fence.’ Euphoric at times, to be honest. To have received a second chance to build something from nothing, was a truly a dream come true. That’s what 2010 was for me… something from nothing.
So here goes. Women On The Fence’s 2010 Year In Review– in chronological order. Some of my favorite moments… (more…)
I think you readers will be happy to know that I have since recovered from last week’s nervous breakdown. Yes, I’m back… it’s me, Erica the overall normal individual, flawed, but still together. It’s amazing what a little support does. You women gave me perspective, a chance to take a breath and realize, we all lose it, and that’s okay. It’s how quickly we bounce back that’s the key.
One of my most popular Blog posts and concepts that really took off over the past year, has been my Bucket List Blog. On February 19th, 2010 I urged you to make a list of your dreams– or simply a list of 25 things you want to do before you “kick the bucket.” The concept pushed many, including Brooke Burke to create her Bucket List which she spoke of on The Oprah Show, on her Blog, and in her upcoming book, The Naked Mom. Because of the power of the Bucket List, and with the approach of 2011, instead of making New Year’s resolutions this year, I wanted to encourage all my readers who haven’t yet done so to make their Bucket List. I’ve re-posted mine below, added a few updates in RED (’cause it’s almost been a year), and then, I’d love to see yours.
Ok Girlfriends. We’re gettin’ down, dirty and honest today. We’re taking an old topic and breathing new life into it, cuz the double standard still exists in full force in many households today. I know it’s alive and well in mine.
Warning: Today could turn into a bit of a kvetch-a-thon. I’m not sure yet.
So now, let’s look at the definition of “The Double Standard.”
double standard
–noun 1. any code or set of principles containing different provisions for one group of people than for another, esp. an unwritten code of sexual behavior permitting men more freedom than women
Now before I get to MY OWN version of the double standard, I want to present the man’s side today as well. Since this topic is a lot about the battle of the sexes, I want to keep us open minded and present one man’s point of view. Now don’t come find me and kill me, I think he has a point. HOWEVER, my point is better! Let’s keep in mind, he is also referring to a “stay-at-home” wife. (more…)
I thought today I’d do a collaboration of ALL the “On The Fence” topics you have suggested over the past year.
It turns out there are MANY.
Here is the top 35! I didn’t hold back. I have kept track of EVERY “On the fence request” since Day 1. Please feel free to voice your faves for further expanded Blog posts.
A friend of mine came home one day and found her (now ex) husband in—ahem—a ‘compromising’ situation. She laughed recounting how he frantically pulled up his pants while muttering inane excuses. It was clear he was far more embarrassed by the incident than her.
After the laughter subsided her mood completely shifted. In anger she confided, “And then a few months later I found him with his pants down in front of the computer, looking at nude pictures.” There was a nervous hesitation then, “I could never trust him after that. And the mistrust was a big reason why we split up.”
I was writing about Cyber Sex and asking the ‘regular Jane’ how she felt about it. Everyone—I mean everyone—assumed there was something wrong or missing in a relationship in order for an individual to turn to sex on the internet.
Yes, I’m back… it’s me, Erica the overall normal individual, flawed, but still together. It’s amazing what a little support does. You women gave me perspective, a chance to take a breath and realize, we all lose it, and that’s okay. It’s how quickly we bounce back that’s the key.
Let’s keep in mind, he is also referring to a “stay-at-home” wife. 
