The Secret To Fighting Stress, Anxiety and Overwhelm

There is something I’ve been meaning to tell you. And my husband. And my mom. And my friends. So here goes…

I have been secretly and quietly meditating for the past few months. Most recently, I’ve been doing it before bed to relax. It all started when I returned home from Canyon Ranch with Dove a few months ago. I signed up for a meditation session simply out of curiosity while at Canyon Ranch. It changed my life.

Please don’t stop reading. This is not some voodoo, organic, spiritual, granola, blog post. This is something very real making a significant difference in my daily life, and it can be doing the same for you.

So I ask you. When you think about meditation, what’s the first thing that comes to mind? Bogus? Boring? Ineffective? I’d never do it?

Well, let me ask you another few questions: Are you overwhelmed? Are you stressed? Are you short-tempered? Has the joy been sucked out of your life? Does life seem a lot like groundhog day? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you should meditate. Yup, you should.

Before I get into the nitty gritty, I’d like to give you the physiological benefits of meditation.

“Neuroscientists have found that meditators shift their brain activity to different areas of the cortex – brain waves in the stress-prone right frontal cortex move to the calmer left frontal cortex. This mental shift decreases the negative effects of stress, mild depression and anxiety. There is also less activity in the amygdala, where the brain processes fear.

Jon Kabat-Zinn, Ph.D., of the University of Massachusetts Medical School, recorded the brain waves of stressed-out employees of a high-tech firm in Madison, Wisconsin. The subjects were split randomly into two groups, 25 people were asked to learn meditation over eight weeks, and the remaining 16 were left alone as a control group.

The researchers found that the meditators showed a pronounced shift in activity to the left frontal lobe. In other words, they were calmer and happier than before.” (Psychology Today)

But here’s what you need to know about meditation– there is no single way to do it, no right or wrong way to do it. Today, I’m giving you the 411 and the 101 of meditating for you to try. These tips are a combination of mine, and experts’, so please try what feels right for you.

And one more thing. When you first start meditating, IT WILL FEEL WEIRD. Yes. Your mind will tell you it’s a waste of time. Why sit there and think about nothing? You will twitch and you will itch (gee, that sounds very Dr. Seuss). You will get annoyed. May I say, stick with it anyhow. It gets better.

How to Meditate In 9 Simple Steps

1. Commit to 5-30 minutes a day. To begin, start with 5 minutes. Most people find 15 minutes optimal, but literally 5 minutes of meditation is beneficial. As for how often, it is said that meditation should be aimed for daily, like brushing your teeth. I don’t meditate daily, but I probably should.

2. Eliminate Distractions. Obviously if you’re a mom, the 3-5pm bewitching hour would not be a good time. Choose a time in your day where you have the least amount of distraction. Maybe it’s in the early morning. Maybe it’s lunchtime. For me, it’s been before bed when I am actually lying in my bed.

3. Relax and get comfortable. Some like to stretch before meditation, as it loosens the body and helps you relax. Remember, if you are a beginner like me, it’s hard to sit still, so stretching and relaxing gets your mind in the zone.

4. Choose Your Position. As for your position, whether lying down, or sitting up- that is a personal choice. Some like to sit, some like to lie down. The only rule is- you should be comfortable (with a straight spine, and not slouching). If you are sitting, relax and rest your hands on your lap. You can sit on the floor cross-legged with the support of a cushion or on a chair with your feet resting on the ground. It’s not necessary to force yourself into a lotus position if you’re not comfortable.

lotus position

5. Focus Your Mind. Be prepared for your mind to wander. The key in meditation is to keep your mind ON THE PRESENT MOMENT, and not in the past, nor on what you have to do in an hour. This is your time to be still, to relax, to literally heal yourself. Once you’ve chosen the optimal time, you are comfortable and relaxed, you will be ready to focus your mind on your breath. You can meditate with your eyes open or closed. That is a personal choice. Sometimes listening to relaxing music can help in meditation. If you like meditating with music, then go ahead. There are many cd’s you can buy. I am actually going to purchase a few on ITunes and try them out.

6. Breathe slowly and deeply. Close your eyes softly. Begin by taking a few slow and deep breaths — inhaling through your nose and exhaling from your mouth. Don’t force your breathing. Let it come naturally. The first few intakes of air are likely to be shallow, but as you allow more air to fill your lungs each time, your breaths will gradually become deeper and fuller. Take as long as you need to breathe slowly and deeply. When you are breathing deeply, you will begin to feel calmer and more relaxed.

7. If your mind wanders, bring it back to your breathing. If your mind wanders, know that this is NORMAL, and gently try and bring it back to the now- to your breathing. Your mind may wander as often as every 5 seconds. That’s totally okay. As you meditate more often, your mind will wander less, and your body and mind will truly relax. My mind still wanders almost every time. It’s hard to sit still and focus on your breath, but make that gentle conscious effort to bring your mind back to the moment. That is what meditation actually is – bringing your awareness back to what you’re doing. On a side note, if you are falling asleep, consider changing positions (from lying to sitting).

8. Ending your meditation. When you are ready to end your meditation, open your eyes and stand up slowly. Good job. You did it!

9. Practice Makes Perfect. It’s not a race. Maybe you can only meditate for 3 minutes now. With time, you’ll increase your time, therefore increasing all the benefits you will experience from meditation.

(Henri Junttila and Wee Peng Ho)

The difference over time, is remarkable. You will begin to feel peaceful, calm and happy. Stick with it- it will feel frustrating at first, and that’s okay. As a multi-tasking, busy career woman and mom, it has made all the difference for me. All the difference in the world.

I’d love to know, do you meditate? Would you try meditation after reading this post? Any tips for starters would be helpful. Have a blessed weekend.

xoxEDxox

29 Comments
  1. Like Fiona (above), I have to admit that I answered yes to your questions too. I am on vacation right now so am feeling a bit of relief but I know it won’t last. Maybe I’ll try this while I’m still on vacation so that I have a little more chance of succeeding.

  2. I can’t tell you how happy I am for you that you are meditating. It has made a huge difference in my life the past 2 years. It makes me smile big that you are sharing the gift with your readers. Have a great Friday and weekend, Erica!

  3. Erica, I whole heartedly do believe in meditation to relieve stress. I appreciate knowing information from the neuroscientists of how meditation changes the brain.Great read. Thank you.

  4. Great tips Erica. I love meditating after a great workout. I lay dead corpse pose on my back in a quiet spot in my house, sometimes with meditation music, and focus totally on my breath – in and out – until im gone in the zone. It is such an amazing feeling, even for 10 min.

  5. Great post!

    I recently started taking yoga and practicing meditation. It’s definitely not as easy as I anticipated to keep the mind from wandering, but the more I do it, the more I love it!

  6. Meditation takes practice to be able to finally shut out the world! I started it a yr ago with a few colleagues at the hospital I work at… we would head over to the terrace at lunch and take over it! We would do our breathing exercises and go into mediation for about 45 mins… it’s quite spectacular when you realize you can achieve absolute quiet in the middle of a busy downtown hospital terrace!

  7. Oh, Erica. I love this.

    I meditate, too, and I always want to encourage other people to do it because I love what it’s done for me, but it seems so “out there”!

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