22 Life Lessons and Tips for Living

March 31st, 2012

Today is April Fool’s Day, so Happy April Fool’s to you! Today is also my father’s 65th birthday. On this joke of a day, it’s no joke that I am who I am, in large part because of his guidance. I blogged about my dad once before on Father’s Day, but today, I’m reposting it below for my new readers.

For those readers who actually know my dad, know he’s a man you instantly fall in love with. He is a man of his word, a man with a kind spirit,  and a true inspiration to me. This is not to sound cocky, but there is nowhere that I don’t go, where I don’t hear, “You’re so-and-so’s daughter? Your dad is such a great guy, ” or “I love him. What a warm and genuine person.” Lucky me.

So Happy 65th birthday, Dad. This one’s for you, and for my thousands of women readers around the world. Here are the life lessons I have learned from my father. They are for everyone. Maybe you’ll pick up a tip or two. :)

  • Your name will stick with you for life. Make sure that name is synonymous with integrity, kindness and truth.
  • You must be a person of your word. This comes back to integrity. Your word must be honorable.
  • I learned that a handshake is as strong as any signed contract in business. My father’s handshake is his word. I have tried to make mine the same.
  • He is the reason I know how to close a business deal and although I sold my business six years ago, that skill still feels very palpable today.
  • He is the one who taught me, “The Art of the Schmooze.” Not because he’s phony. No way. Because he genuinely has an interest in every race, culture, ethnicity and religion in this world. He is a lover of all people, and he is a sponge. As am I.
  • He is the reason I love Billy Holiday, Ella Fitzgerald, Earth Wind and Fire, Kool & The Gang, Stevie Wonder, Basia (bet you never heard of her), Anita Baker, Frank Sinatra, Quincy Jones, Michael Jackson, Tony Bennett, Barbara Streisand, and more. Sense a theme here? We’re both still stuck in the 70′s (or earlier), but it’s our comfort zone! He has given me my great appreciation and ear for music.
  • He is also the one responsible for giving me my appreciation of great food and great wine. I die for both.
  • He taught me to always cut the cloth according to the measure. If you don’t know what that means, Google it.
  • He taught me to always face the music, no matter how dark it may sound.
  • He taught me not to spend next week’s paycheck.
  • He taught me to love what you have, and have what you love.
  • He taught me that family comes first.
  • He taught me about kindness and loyalty.
  • He taught me to always plan ahead. I am like a scout today… I always plan ahead. And not only do we both plan ahead, we anticipate the other person’s response, and are therefore constantly in problem solving mode.
  • He taught me that you can never have enough underwear or shampoo. A person must stock up on both. Ok, maybe that one isn’t one you can truly learn from, but, I have tons of both.
  • He taught me that growing up lacking many resources makes you stronger in the end and is not a bad thing. Fortunately, I didn’t learn that one first hand, but I may as well have. It’s been ingrained in me since birth. I have an immense value for a dollar. I eat every morsel of food on my plate… Every. Single. Morsel. I conserve. I don’t waste. I’m most comfortable in sweats, no makeup and being unfancy. And I know that bad things happen for a reason, and we must never ignore the message.
  • I learned that a great massage and a great workout are one of life’s great treats.
  • He taught me how to be confident and humble, all in the same breath.
  • He taught me how to give of my time, always give back and volunteer.
  • He taught me how to venture outside my backyard and learn about other cultures, and ways of life.
  • He taught me it’s ok to try bad things, just don’t make a habit out of it. Like when I tried smoking at eight years old and he then bought me a pack of Craven A’s for a Kibbitz! Again, if you don’t know what Kibbitz means, Google it.
  • He taught me how to always see my glass as half full, and how to SMILE.

Dad, you are my confidante, my mentor, my inspiration. I hope you now realize what you mean to me. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. For EVERYTHING.

Enjoy the trip down memory lane…

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Trying to get me to eat :)

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Such a close family. Me upset about SOMETHING!

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My Wedding Day... Look how my dad is looking at me

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My Wedding Day Again... Oh Boy.

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Me and my dad!

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Always Bonding

Happy 65th birthday Dad, and Happy April Fool’s Day to all. Remember to keep your pranks clean. (Oh yeah, and he likes birthday wishes, so feel free to leave him one here. Don’t tell him I said so). ;)

xoxEDxox

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  5. alison p-h says:

    Happy Birthday Erica’s Dad!!! Hope you have a great day and an even better year! Great lessons. Thanks for sharing.

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  7. ireneNo Gravatar says:

    Erica your dad sounds like an amazing man. Happy 65th birthday! Hope you are having an amazing day!

  8. KarenNo Gravatar says:

    Happy Birthday to your Dad Erica – he is a handsome man and more importantly, taught you well :)

    My Dad turns 65 this month too and I am so very proud to be his daughter, as I can tell that you are proud to be your Dad’s daughter. We are so blessed!

    To many, many more years of birthdays and learning from each other

  9. LeahNo Gravatar says:

    Beautiful tribute to your dad. He sounds very special. Happy birthday!

  10. That is so sweet! Great lessons and sounds like an incredible father! He is so young. You are so lucky

  11. Your dad sounds like a wonderful man who has had a great impact on your life. Unfortunately, not all of us can say the same. You are a very lucky woman.

    Veering off the subject of your dad, I don’t know if you noticed but the picture of your mom and then the picture of you on you wedding day right afterward – your faces are in almost the same position and, wow, you look so much alike!! I did a double-take. You definitely inherited her beauty.

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  14. Ana CardosoNo Gravatar says:

    Good Morning Erica…your blog made me cry! Daddy’s are our greatest gift. My sister and I recently had a conversation where we agreed that my dad wrecked our image of what a man is, no man will ever measure up. Happy Birthday to your dad – I wish him (and you) a world of blessings!

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  15. PatriciaNo Gravatar says:

    Happy birthday Dad!

  16. JaneNo Gravatar says:

    Happy birthday dad! You remind me of my own dad and sound like a special man. Erica is a lucky girl.

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