Comments on: How to Stop Settling for “Mr. Good Enough” and Start Fighting the “Somebody-Is-Better-Than-Nobody” Syndrome http://womenonthefence.com/2011/12/16/how-to-stop-settling-for-mr-good-enough-and-start-fighting-the-somebody-is-better-than-nobody-syndrome/ Real Inspiration for the Modern Woman Thu, 23 May 2013 02:22:46 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 By: linda Alexis http://womenonthefence.com/2011/12/16/how-to-stop-settling-for-mr-good-enough-and-start-fighting-the-somebody-is-better-than-nobody-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-34704 linda Alexis Sat, 20 Apr 2013 21:49:31 +0000 http://womenonthefence.com/?p=11716#comment-34704 My name is linda Alexis. My ex boyfriend broke up with me two weeks ago because we were fighting all the time. he was always nagging, I wanted him back and I was wondering how do that, so i told my friend what happened between my boyfriend after some days he asked me to contact dr.marnish@yahoo.com, i emailed dr.marnish@yahoo.com and after 3 days my lover reconciled with me

]]> By: hellen owen http://womenonthefence.com/2011/12/16/how-to-stop-settling-for-mr-good-enough-and-start-fighting-the-somebody-is-better-than-nobody-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-34703 hellen owen Sat, 20 Apr 2013 21:48:47 +0000 http://womenonthefence.com/?p=11716#comment-34703 I never really believed in love spell but when I was loosing my lover, I needed help so badly. then I found dr.marnish@yahoo.com online and ordered a RETURN MY LOVER SPELL. Several days later, my phone rang. my lover came back to his old self again and wanted to come back to me! Not only back, the spell made my lover to show me much love. Spell Casting is real, I recommend anyone who is in my situation to try a spell with dr marnish. he will bring your lover back to you. You CAN be happy again! Yes, Spell Casting from dr marnish is REAL. hellen owen

]]> By: Tony http://womenonthefence.com/2011/12/16/how-to-stop-settling-for-mr-good-enough-and-start-fighting-the-somebody-is-better-than-nobody-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-22442 Tony Sat, 25 Aug 2012 12:17:50 +0000 http://womenonthefence.com/?p=11716#comment-22442 Interesting, there’s actually a well known publisher that was featured on a the TODAY show a couple of times that has a book called, “Is it okay to settle for Mr. Good Enough.”

The FINE line between compromising and settling. Author is Laura Gottlieb, Shay….what are your views on her articles. Not sure if you’ve seen it already.

I personally think that some people have unrealistic standards/expectations that are keeping them single beyond their 30′s or even into their 40′s. That perhaps they shouldn’t have a strict height criteria, or limiting themselves to blondes only.

Makes sense, right?

]]> By: Narissa http://womenonthefence.com/2011/12/16/how-to-stop-settling-for-mr-good-enough-and-start-fighting-the-somebody-is-better-than-nobody-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-21716 Narissa Wed, 08 Aug 2012 20:14:33 +0000 http://womenonthefence.com/?p=11716#comment-21716 Great post! I think in the perfect world, you wouldn’t have to settle. The reality is very different though. There are some things you will simply have to settle for and no matter how wonderful a relationship is, your partner will not always make your heart smile.

I’m 34, my fiance is not the perfect man I always thought I’d end up with, but to be honest, my priorities have shifted. At this point, I’m looking for a decent man that I can have a family with. Sure I don’t feel butterflies when I’m with him but at the end of the day, I want a family and waiting around so that I don’t feel like I’m settling means that I’ll be losing the option to have kids with every passing year and that’s not worth it for me.

I think it may be a bit dangerous to say that no woman should ever settle. At some point, we all realize that we have to settle for some things in life and once we accept that, it doesn’t feel like settling anymore.

]]> By: Single Again: Living Comfortably In My Skin | WomenOnTheFence.com http://womenonthefence.com/2011/12/16/how-to-stop-settling-for-mr-good-enough-and-start-fighting-the-somebody-is-better-than-nobody-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-20490 Single Again: Living Comfortably In My Skin | WomenOnTheFence.com Fri, 13 Jul 2012 17:15:56 +0000 http://womenonthefence.com/?p=11716#comment-20490 [...] few months ago, I ended yet another long term relationship with someone whom I had lived with for 3 years.  He was not sure if he wanted to marry me, and I [...]

]]> By: Laura Michelle http://womenonthefence.com/2011/12/16/how-to-stop-settling-for-mr-good-enough-and-start-fighting-the-somebody-is-better-than-nobody-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-20168 Laura Michelle Wed, 11 Jul 2012 15:20:15 +0000 http://womenonthefence.com/?p=11716#comment-20168 I broke up with a wonderful man in November because I fell in love with someone else who was of course, emotionally unavailable. I’ve seen my ex twice since breaking up with him and I know I made the right decision because, well, I don’t love him anymore at all. But at 28, I’m annoyed and frightened that several of my girlfriends are on marriage #2 and I haven’t had a hot date since Janurary. While I don’t want to settle, I truly don’t want to be alone either. I am that woman with the great career and of reasonable weight but I find myself gauging my worth by who’s on my arm. I can’t wait to get out of this mindset…

]]> By: Anonymous http://womenonthefence.com/2011/12/16/how-to-stop-settling-for-mr-good-enough-and-start-fighting-the-somebody-is-better-than-nobody-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-13708 Anonymous Mon, 30 Jan 2012 19:30:05 +0000 http://womenonthefence.com/?p=11716#comment-13708 I have definitely settled! And it really had a negative affect on my life too =( Aside from how it threw my life for a bad turn, I am also aware that when we settle, we are in essence lying to the other person and holding them back from relationship-happiness as well. The further we go in these relationships, the further we solidify the other person’s feelings for us, falsely validating them… And for me, while I discoverd I had fears having to with a boyfriend who died years ago and then losing another great relationship that ended because we both had to move and literally lost contact, I think most of us do this “settling” thing because we have not fully defined who we are. And I think that that issue is worse for women than men because we are taught to be independent, all the while, we’re still overly-influenced with media hype telling what to wear, what size our bodies should be, how to “catch a man”, that our place is still in the kitchen along with house-chores and children, and that sex sex sex should be as free as men seem to want, though our own brain chemistry is proof we cannot truly handle that… I applaud you for working with women, and hopefully young girls, to help them discover that equality is about cherishing who we are, and in that effort, it is time that we allow ourselves to discover that instead of allowing the world to define it for us =) Here is to being single and trusting in my own cosmic karma!

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