When Your Man Has Been Living A Double Life

By Guest Blogger Kiri Blakely

One night five years ago, I was getting ready for bed. It was about 11 p.m. My fiance, Aaron, whom I’d lived with for ten years, was in the living room. I could hear Sex and the City droning on the television.

“Kiri, come here,” he said, softly. “We need to talk.”

I padded into the living and plopped into a chair across from him. For an instant, it occurred to me that he might be about to tell me something horrible, but I just as instantly dismissed the thought. When you’ve lived with a man for a decade, you reside in a peaceful place of complete confidence that you know him thoroughly.

I was about to have that confidence forever stripped from me.

“I think I’m confused about my sexuality,” Aaron said. Then he burst into wracking sobs.

Aaron went on to tell me that he’d been “fantasizing” about men. Soon, it became apparent that he wanted to explore these fantasies, and that our relationship would have to end. After talking (and crying and screaming and cracking jokes at his expense) all night, I finally curled up into a fetal position on my bed and prayed for this surreal night to end.

Life as I’d known it was suddenly and without warning done.

The next morning, I would discover that my fiance wasn’t just “confused” and wasn’t just “fantasizing.” A little digging around in his computer revealed that he had long been cheating on me with strange men he found on Craigslist.

Here are a few tips for women who might be vaguely wondering if their man is secretly gay .

Tip #1 Get into his computer.

Tip # 2 Get into his computer.

Tip #3 Get into his computer.

If you do this, have an EKG first to make certain you don’t have a weak heart. Because when my fiance’s monitor filled with gay porn videos, pictures of muscular policemen in leather, and close-ups of his private parts, as well as listing after listing of men looking for sex, it’s sort of a medical miracle that I didn’t drop dead of shock.

It’s also good for him that he’d gone into work when I made my discovery. If he’d been home, he likely would have dropped dead of a lamp on his head.

My fiance had been cheating on me with men the entire time he’d simultaneously been encouraging me to marry him. We’d been engaged for about nine years. I had come from a long line of divorce and was wary that marriage might ruin our relationship. But I finally agreed that we should have a wedding. Aaron was so happy, he’d run into our local bar and whooped the news to all of his friends. Perhaps I should have known a man that excited to get married couldn’t be straight. 😉

So how did I deal with all of this?

Well I can’t say I dealt with this sudden turn of events in a way that talk-show gurus would describe as “healthy.” I didn’t sign up for yoga classes and check out every self-help book in the library. Instead, I numbed myself with alcohol and casual relationships. I recently read that this is a typical way of dealing with a traumatic break-up. Sociologists even have a name for it: anomie. It means embracing the breakdown of social norms and values.

Let’s get it straight though (so to speak): I didn’t fall apart as much as I could have. I didn’t turn to hard drugs or rob a bank. Nor did I prowl the streets at night looking for strange men to sleep with. I found them in respectable places—like bars.

But seriously, Aaron’s betrayal knocked me into another dimension. He and I had always had a close relationship. We had all of those things that successful couples are supposed to have. We “communicated.” We talked through our disagreements in a “healthy” fashion. Through every little trial and tribulation, as well as the big ones, Aaron had never let me down.

Beside the sweet little things, like never forgetting to acknowledge Valentine’s Day, he also was there for the big things. A year before he came out, I had two heart-breaking deaths in the family: my grandmother, whom I was extremely close to, and my young niece, who tragically died of a cancerous brain tumor at seven years old. Aaron couldn’t have been more instrumental to my hanging on to my sanity.

To realize this same loving man had for years been hooking up with men for random sexual encounters—putting my health, his health, and his safety at risk—was devastating. Not only to my sense of who he was, but to my sense of who I was.

Thrumming wildly around in my brain was the realization that if I didn’t know Aaron, I wouldn’t ever know anyone. How was I ever supposed to trust another man and commit to him?

I wouldn’t. This is what I told myself. Of course, I was a human being and had needs like everyone else, but I could satisfy those without the confines of another relationship. Men were too much of a high-risk proposition.

I now not only had a distrust of men—but especially men who reminded me of Aaron. That is to say of nice relationship-oriented men. For the first time in my life, I was attracted to the bad boys, the players. In my warped way of thinking, I reasoned that if I could see that these men were bad news, at least I wouldn’t be surprised when they screwed me over! Hey, I said I wasn’t thinking clearly.

I was basically suffering post-traumatic stress disorder. You know how a soldier comes back from war and can’t walk down his hometown street without fearing that a terrorist is going to blast him to smithereens? It’s because his brain chemistry and neural pathways have been altered. He now feels danger everywhere, even in his backyard. That’s how I felt.

The year I spent after Aaron’s revelation is the subject of my book, Can’t Think Straight: A Memoir of Mixed-Up Love. Mixed up it was. Although my fiance had betrayed me in the worst way possible, that didn’t mean I stopped loving him, nor him me. After his announcement, we still spent a lot of time together, which was very confusing and, as the title says, mixed-up!

I began seeing two men in particular. There was Rahil, a hot-blooded Indian playboy who made it clear from the get-go that he didn’t believe in monogamy (and who was also still hung-up on his ex-girlfriend). And there was James, a handsome and dryly witty man who, despite being rather anti-social, was catnip to ladies. Both of these men, despite their emotional unavailability, helped distract me from my emotional turmoil and made me feel sexy again. If it all sounds like a pulpy romance paperback, and I guess in some ways, it was.

Then the worst thing happened. I fell in love with James. It was involuntary on my part—I wanted nothing more than a bed warmer. But his wit and animal magnetism became irresistible to me. Unfortunately, he was a confirmed man-whore who slept with every young woman within ten zip codes. But James, who was as determined to avoid a relationship as I was, couldn’t seem to leave me alone. It became one of those protracted love-hate relationships that is sexually charged yet emotionally draining. Still, neither one of us could seem to let go.

I realized after some soul-searching and the healing powers of time, that the only person I needed was myself. That it is better to be alone than to live with dysfunction. Sure, it’s great to be in a relationship—fundamental for most of us. But it does not define us. People are fallible and your belief in them always runs a risk of being shattered. Betrayal will change you forever. But, if you work very hard, it can change you for the better in some ways. For example, I’m no longer the smug, judgmental person I used to be. I realize now that bad things can happen to good, smart people. And this happens as a way to strengthen our character and teach us a lesson.

I look back at that time with some bemusement, some horror, and some affection. I’d suffered one of the worst things a relationship can throw at you, and somehow lived to tell the tale. In the process, I discovered how strong I was, how complex people can be, and, yes, how we can endlessly renew our love in other people—and in ourselves.

What do you think?

~Kiri

BIO:

Kiri Blakeley is the author of Can’t Think Straight: A Memoir of Mixed-Up Love. She also writes about women and pop culture for Forbes. Visit her at kiriblakeley.com or at her blog at Forbes The Bold Type.

xoxEDxox

82 Comments
  1. Kiri thank you for sharing your story. I couldn’t help but laugh at some parts. I can relate to seeking a body after a bad breakup. It’s normal. Sounds like you made some smart revelations after going through all of this. I agree always better to be alone than in a bad relationship. I’m going to check out your blog now.

  2. Kiri have you had any therapy in the five years? That will help you get over the betrayal issues and allow you to go into future relationships in a more healthy manner. Just a question.

  3. Great article. Even though your betrayal was a gay partner, any woman who has been betrayed can relate to this. I have to be honest though, it’s alot easier on the self esteem that he was cheating with another man instead of woman. Am I alone in my thoughts or do other women agree?

  4. Hi everyone:

    Thanks so much for your comments. I did get a bit of therapy for awhile, but it is still a long process of emotional recovery. I’m in a relationship now.

    I just wanted to let everyone know that my book is available at all of the usual places: Barnes & Noble, Amazon (Kindle too), etc. My website might go down for a bit today because I’m transitioning to a new host. But the book tells my entire story. My Forbes blog is more about pop culture.

    Anyway, here’s the Amazon link, and if you read the book (which I hope you will!) please email me at kiri@kiriblakeley.com and let me know what you thought. Best, Kiri

    http://www.amazon.com/Cant-Think-Straight-Memoir-Mixed-Up/dp/0806533307/ref=sr_1_10?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1283957239&sr=1-10

  5. Kiri, thank you for sharing your story so openly and honestly. I am sure that night five years ago was a devastating moment for you… losing your partner and best friend in the blink of an eye. Although I agree with Jillian, that I would have an easier time if I discovered my man had been cheating with another man than with a woman, it doesn’t change the mourning and loss of a relationship you experienced, and actually losing someone you love.

    I just read from your comment that you are in a relationship now. Good for you! Make sure he treats you well!!! :))

  6. Kiri, as someone else who knows what that experience feels like, I want to to say thank you for your candid retelling and humour. Its been one year since I left my fiance after discovering his other, albeit real, life. and Ladies, I assure you, finding out you’ve been cheated on whether male or female is devastating. In fact, knowing your man chooses a man over you is I now know worse than him cheating with a woman. I could have handled that news, simply, easily, it happens all the time, another woman, but when I found out it was with men, my life hit stand still. Dealing with that is not in the handbook. Facing every “how could you now know?” from friends, family, loved ones over and over again… humiliating on so many levels.

    1. Kirsty, I’m sorry you went through it. You are right it is equally devastating, and for different reasons. For one, you feel like you were used so someone could live a socially acceptable life– not the case if your man cheats with a woman. For two, you feel like you fundamentally do not know or understand the person you loved. You don’t get competitive, that is true. I didn’t ask myself, “What does she have that I don’t?” But I did ask myself, again and again, “Who is this person? Why would he lie to me and himself for so long?” And, as you said, there is no handbook for that kind of news. On some level, most women are kind of prepared for their man to cheat with another woman. We’ve seen it, heard about it, read about it, or dealt with it in the past. Which doesn’t make it less difficult. But when it’s with men, you have no handbook for what to do, how to react, who to tell, nothing. And it also doesn’t make it easier that people THINK it’s easier because it’s not a woman. You have to deal with a lot of judgments (I constantly get, How could you not have known?!) that you wouldn’t with a woman. Oh, and then people were actually congratulating him for coming out. Which was fine, but no one seemed to really understand that this was truly devastating for me. No one would have congratulated him for having an affair with a woman.

  7. Wow. Thanks for sharing. A few years ago, I found out that my husband (of 12 yrs) had been addicted to pornography for 22 yrs. and I felt much the same as you. Betrayed and feeling like I was unable to trust anyone ever again. But, in the end, and I love this line from your post… “In the process, I discovered how strong I was, how complex people can be, and, yes, how we can endlessly renew our love in other people—and in ourselves.”

    Anne
    the white words

  8. Cheating is cheating, regardless of gender! Whether engaged or married, promises were broken! This is a great story & can help us all digest what can happen to ourselves or our friends in such a situation.

  9. At his recent birthday party he had invited three guys from his work who were all gay. One of them was not interested in meeting me at all, kinda smirked when I introduced myself to him & walked away without saying what his name was. This was a large party with many of our dear friends we have known for years & my husband hung out 95% of the time with this other guy. Also, recently my husband has been having trouble maintaining an erection when we are making love. I’m afraid to confront him about it.

  10. I gotta tell u, i was married for 28 years and for the ast 10, figured my husband was too—never did find out–I only knew this-he sure wasn’t jonesing for me & there was no evidence of other women–i actually wished there was—at least it would have explained his lack of interest—-i think there’s a whole lot of men who never come out but are gay–they want families and a straight lifestyle so they find women who fit the bill—i think i was one of them….

  11. Oh my goodness, Kiri, One of our participants at Stiletto Spy School shared the same experience. She wrote an article about it that I think you will really appreciate. Its here: http://app.e2ma.net/app2/campaigns/archived/1400298/3664ef4b00b05850d1107c5332c854ff/
    Just click on the link to ‘read more’ for the full story.

    When we posted this story on our Facebook page, other women commented that they’d had the same experience. Great to share it and get support from others. And brave of you to share it!

      1. Hi Kiri,

        It’s so interesting how many women – or I guess men too – feel ‘stuck’ somewhere in their life. Its so important for people to first be able to speak about where they are stuck, and then realize they are not alone.
        That’s what can help move the blocks and open the doors to the full life that is waiting for all of us.

        While we only talk about the fun side of Stiletto Spy School on our website – that’s where the power of it is.
        And that’s where the power of your book is too.

  12. Kiri, I can’t relate to the gay part, but I did stay in a marriage that was sexless for 7 long years. We spent nearly 20 years together. He just didn’t like sex for whatever reason. It was heartbreaking to leave, but I was bitter and angry – and horny. I then met my now former boyfriend who is a lot like James. It’s nice to know I’m not the only one who’s bonded with someone so obviously wrong for me but attractive nonetheless. Leaving this latest relationship was hard, especially as he swore he’d be faithful and a “better man.” He was saying that just as he received a text message from his 22-year-old latest love interest (he’s 36). Thank you, Universe, for the reminder that leaving is best.

    I’ve had friends who’ve asked if I’ll give up on love. Nope. Hope springs eternal. I know there’s the right person for me “out there.” This line from your post is perfect: “In the process, I discovered how strong I was, how complex people can be, and, yes, how we can endlessly renew our love in other people—and in ourselves.”

    1. Thanks for sharing and reading Lisbeth… a sexless relationship, I hear about that a lot. Always wonder if the guy is gay or asexual. Either way, it’s not good!

  13. Thank you for sharing your story. I found out that my fiancee had been cheating on me with men 13 days ago. Your story has helped me through it in so many ways. I appreciate the brutal honesty in your book and reading your journey to find yourself again has made me optimistic in my journey.

    1. Wow, Sandra. I am really sorry to hear that. Please go to my website after you finish reading and let me know how you are doing. I want to hear back from you. I know exactly how you feel. Exactly!

  14. Kiri, I found out that my former fiance who was still my boyfriend is bisexual by getting him a phone line on my phone plan. He used over 1,000 anytime minutes within one week. I started calling the numbers and found gay live and interactive male along with countless dating sites. He admitted to sleeping with men but lied about always using protection. July 15, 2010 is still the worst day of my life. The betrayal was made worse by his lies and his stating that he cheated because I was overweight. He was purportedly afraid that I’d have a breakdown if he left me. It turns out he had been on Meth from April of 2010 onward til the end of July 2010. He had been losing weight at a rapid rate. He vascillates the label of his sexuality between bisexual and heterosexual. I ended up learning from hearing an ad of his on Interactive Male that he prefers to bottom. In addition, in two e-mail Craigslist responses he stated that he loves to serve as a bottom. We were broken up until his 41st birthday on April 10, 2011. We remained the best of friends but once we got back together, I realize that I am compromising myself to be with him. I have access to his GoPhone records and Yahoo! account and check several times per day. One early morning between May 9th and 13th, he made 4 calls, 2 of which were to Interactive Male. He used 30 minutes that I had paid for! I renewed the 30 minutes and he hasn’t thus far used any of it. He accused me of trapping him in May. Since May 20th he has been in a rehab in LA for gambling addiction. He isn’t addressing his other addictions–alcohol, drug, and sex. He claims to love me and admires me for “forgiving” him. I can’t forget. I still get an upset stomach when I picture him with the AT LEAST 6 men he was with when he was with me PRIOR to my discovering his double life. The two (his words) ugly women he had sex with don’t bother me as much as the at least 6 men. I went through HIV tests and so far am NEGATIVE–thank God! He always wears shorts. I think he wears them for easy access. He also takes middle of the night walks. I can’t help but sense that he is likely meeting men at night for sex. I haven’t seen him since May 20th. He is looking forward to August 19th because it is 3 years that we’ve been “together”. He wants to pretend that we never broke up. I love him very much but don’t believe he’s in love with me. I’m waiting for him to break up with me. He thinks I weigh 189.5 but I actually weigh 196 lbs. He thinks I blindly trust him. I DON’T. If I didn’t love him, it would be much easier to let go. I’ve got to love myself more. I know I deserve better. He and I BOTH need to be honest with who we are and that we’d be better off apart. In the process of getting a counselor to help support me in letting him go. Thanks for taking the time to read this. Want to believe that he can give up his desire to bottom with men. Something inside of me tells me that he will never lose that desire. Am I right?

    1. Wow, Jeannie. I do not know if he will ever lose that desire– likely not. The question is, can he control it? And can you TRUST that he will? So those are the questions, and only you and he can answer them. I’m sorry you have gone through so much.

      1. Kiri,

        July 15, 2010 was the worst day of my life when I found out about Brad’s double life as I’ve previously stated. The 2nd worst day was the Friday before last when I received a text message at 12:10AM meant for a guy named Jeff. This was so bad because he promised previously that I was the love of his life. I guess once a cheater always a cheater. Especially when Brad exhibits all 10 criteria of being a sociopath. Thanks for kindly responding to me October 12, 2011. Now I know that July 15, 2010 should have been the last time I ever had anything to do with him. Wasted an additional 2 1/2 years–a total of 4 1/2–to learn the lesson that I can’t make a sociopath love anyone but himself. I hope to hear from you again. Last communication I initiated was: Jeff did not get your message. I did. It’s over is not strong enough. You’ve lost EVERYTHING to do with me FOREVERMORE. I’m done. That was sent to him at 6:55AM Friday January 11th. It is now January 19th–8 days without him and it’s definitely for the best. To make matters worse, he signed up for Local Cheaters.com using MY e-mail address! I’ll miss his family most of all if they decide not to have anything to do with me because I’ve cut their son and brother out of my life but that’s a risk I must take. Brad is a homosexual who thinks he’s bi, bipolar, and a sociopath. No wonder I’ve been hesitant to enter the dating scene. Yet I know in my heart that 99% of guys aren’t like that. Thanks a million Kiri! God bless and congrats on your relationship.

  15. so wicked that some not ready to marry men will send a pretty lady to her early grave. My colleague men in gay business, i just dont know why health implication doesnt matter to them at all. I guest most of them might have contributed to the recent price hike of pampers as they compete with nursing mother sorting them in shops

  16. Ladies ,, from a mans perspective,,,, I feel your pain , my story is a little different, Don’t feel like you are not attractive,, i’m sure you are,, but sometimes a relationship becomes , stagnent, men are visual creatures who thrive on visual and physical satisfaction, I was married twice,, over the last 30 years ,, until recently, i never even considered a sexual alternative, however,, the thoughts or fantacys in a mans mind are there,, its your choice to embrace him and talk about them or share ,, or shun him. I also have found comfort in these thoughts,, i havent acted on them ,, my girfriend of 8 years just moved back to the north,, i asked her to leave,, i am very lonley now and have considered the alternatives thet you ladies speak about. I think i need hlp

  17. Hi Kiri Blakely,

    I just recently discovered that my boyfriend was having casual encounters with men from Craigslist. When I found out he denied everything even though there was evidence. He said he wasn’t gay but just curious.
    He said he just emailed men back and forth but nothing more. I don’t really believe him. He begged for my forgiveness. I forgave him because I love him but I don’t believe him. I feel so paranoid now. I feel like he is in denial of his sexuality and is using me as a cover up. Sometimes I believe he is still hooking up with men It so hard to leave him. I’m unsure what to do. He said he is going to a psychologist to help figure himself out. I’m the crazy one for staying with him.
    I’m so in love with him.

  18. having my lover back was the greatest thing that has ever happened to me. I have been dating my lover for 3yrs now, we have never had a misunderstanding that would lead to us leaving each other till last month when my lover accused me of cheating when am not, his jealousy turned us apart. Everytime i message him or call him he tells me to go and meet my new boyfriend that he has found himself a girlfriend too, I was so depressed that i could not take it any more then i told a friend what i was going through. That was how i was introduced to a lady called priestess Ifaa online who they say it does spells. I told her all that happened and. The spell lady said that i shouldn’t worry that she’s going to restore my happiness At first I didn’t want to believe her when she said my lover is now dating someone else that’s why he is looking for an excuse to leave. She was right on because after she has done the spell to return my lover to me the other girl was trying to intrude into our relationship again that was when my lover beats her up and warned her never to come closer ever again. The lady spells worked to the fullness, you can contact her on this email priestessifaa@yahoo.com You will not be disappointed in ordering a spell from her.

  19. WOW, I just found out 1/25/13, because he gave me his old phone to transfer mine to and wham 5 hours later all his contacks a few emails and a pic came to my phone. 30 reply’s to cd m4m on F N CRAIGSLIST, and when i LOOKED THROUGH ALL HIS & MY CONTACTS HE HAD A ZILLION FEMALE NAMES & #’S FROM TALLAHASSEE TO FT. LAUDERDALE. I IMMEDIATELY STARTED GOOGLING THE #’S AND EVERY F N ONE OF THEM CAME UP WITH PICS OF BIG FAT ASS WHITE WOMEN ALL FROM ESCORT SERVICES. OMG,,,, WTH DO WE DO. I CONFRONTED HIM AND ASKED IF HE WAS Bi and he DENIED EVERYTHING, said r u crazy, why would you ask me something like that, i said I’ll show you and showed him the man’s ass & dick from behind in a fetal position on his phone & the email he replied to om craigslist on 12/9/12, sob denied that too even tho it was sent from his own email. he said somebody hacked into his phone probably. Im tripping…..guess he’s a closet case sex addict. what to do??????

  20. My husband & I lost our home to the recent hurricane Sandy in October. By December, when it was clear we would be going home soon, I decided to go into his email (he knows I have the password) and download some pictures of his son that had gotten destroyed in the flood. I was going to send them to be reprinted. What I found was devastating… pictures of him posing, dressed in wigs, stockings etc. He had told me his ex wife had pictures of him photoshopped & sent them to his family & boss & accused him of being gay. I never questioned it. Thought his ex was a lunatic & hated her all these years (6) for hurting him like that, but was glad because I had met him. He’s my soul mate, my best friend (so I thought) Ive known almost 2 months now. He has answered & posted ads on Craigslist. I found an ad that I KNOW he wrote; so I made a phony email address & answered it. I am currently going back & forth with him pretending to be a guy to see when he says hes available; so far he has told this “guy” he’s avail when he knows I will be at work. I dont know how far to take this before I confront him. I dont know if I should confront him. He has told me he has thoughts of guys when he’s super horny & he’s watched gay/cd porn but that afterwards, he’s like WTF was I thinking. Ive given him chances; Ive asked him if he would ever have a 3some with me with a bi-guy; spice things up a bit; something different. He says he could never do it and wouldnt be comfortable with me seeing him “that way” I dont know if I confront him about this if he will have a break down because in his mind he’s not my “Big Daddy” anymore. Hes admitted to men in emails that he’s a bottom so Im sure he’s gone all the way with men. Ive seen pics of him giving BJs & 1 3-some with men. Im mad because we are supposed to have this “open” relationship and he is still leading a double life. He tells me Im sexy; I know hes into women; so he is BI but either he wont admit it to me; or somehow justifies it to himself. My stomach twists when he looks at me lovingly and tells me Im his best friend; how much he loves me; how Im his dream wife… he sometimes seems insecure; asking me if I really love him. Asking me if he takes care of me good enough. Always seemed odd but I thought he was just really a sensitive emotional guy that was hurt over his divorce because according to him he did everything for her & it was never good enough. Im so sick right now. Its not so much that hes bi. People are what they are. Im mad because he wasnt honest with me from the beginning and that hes having these secret affairs inviting men into my home and jeapordizing his health & mine. He always told me he is open sexually. So am I. So yes, we’ve had other men and other women in bed with us (ONCE there was M/M contact but he told me he didnt like it; wasnt comfortable & that its “out of is system”) Part of me wants to go on as Ive been; acting like everything is fine & enjoying our life together and when I feel like I cant look at him just have a drink & say Im tired/headache whatever, go to the Dr & hope for the best. Another part of me wants to confront him; but where will that lead? We have no money to seperate; there will be no trust (he has a seperate email address that Im still trying to hack the password for) because he can always make another email address & it’ll probably be years before I accidentally catch on to it… I cant live my life stalking craigslist, answering ads that I think he put up & constantly checking my fake email for his response. Its been a week since Im doing this with the emails & its driving me crazy. I dont know how long I can hold out. I think about confronting him calmly and trying to talk about it; then when Im aggrevated with him over something small I picture myself just blurting it all out !! I have no one to talk to about this obviously. IF he knows I know it will devastate him. If he knows I TOLD someone else, I cant imagine what will happen…. Sorry its so long but after over 2 months now this is the first time I’m “letting it out” Please help!

  21. As a gay male who has met many ‘straight’ men who initially/eventually reveal to me they are on the ‘downlow,’over the years, I feel for you women…the advice you are being given, you need to heed and follow.
    An example, is a man I know as Dave…he is a high school teacher, recently married (I know and work with his wife, although only found this out well into our involvement together). He would meet me on Saturday mornings when his wife was supervising a weekend children’s netball team…although he had the appearance of a tall, athletic, very attractive heterosexual male who spoke with a deep manly voice, his role with me was was as a complete bottom…we met online on a gay dating site…after many visits (he always told his wife he was going for a ride on his motorbike while she supervised her netball team) when he revealed to me that he was on the downlow, I asked him how did he cope doing this with me and maintaining a marriage??? If it was me, I don’t think I could live with myself. It would be just too emotionally difficult. But these men seem to be able to compartmentalize the different parts of their lives.
    Heed the advice of others on this posting site, if you have a hunch there is something amiss, there invariably will be. If things don’t add up, look into the situation further, try not to be passive and just accept what your spouse/fiance tells you. These men will do everything to keep their cake and eat it too. You deserve to be treated better than that…
    …and Yes, check that computer!!!…your health and self esteem are worth it – men on the downlow don’t seem to know the meaning of ‘Safe Sex.’

    1. I applaud your honesty. I had a gay friend that told me something similiar and I was shocked. If your gay. Fine. But when a person is a deceitful jerk with perverted tendacies and is selfish and self centered to think only of their own sexual needs and not those of their family i.e. wife, children, mom, dad etc. What a pitiful human being. They are unloyal and dispicable. Not only do they live a lie but they force their “supposed” loved ones to live a lie as well

  22. Hi,

    My ex boyfriend now is and was leading a double life. He was dating this woman almost twice my age, and for major part of our relationship. I came to know when I called the other woman, Jocelyn, about him and inquiring about how long they been dating. She didn’t answer any of my questions, however, the questions she asked me and the other proof I found led me to beleive my ex Jose had been dating her and me for atleast two years. As a woman I answered as many questions she had, cause I thought she should know.

    What bothers me the most is that even though Jocelyn seems to be way older than me, she started acting as if I was at fault and that I owed her an explanation for my ex living a double life. I am glad that it’s not my life that is ruined that it’s hers, as she has chosen to be with this god awful guy still. I would NEVER go back to my ex, however, I still have a ton of anger towards my ex for betraying me. I just hope I am able to let go and just move on.

  23. Hi,

    My ex boyfriend now is and was leading a double life. He was dating this woman almost twice my age, and for major part of our relationship. I came to know when I called the other woman, Jocelyn, about him and inquiring about how long they been dating. She didn’t answer any of my questions, however, the questions she asked me and the other proof I found led me to beleive my ex Jose had been dating her and me for atleast two years. As a woman I answered as many questions she had, cause I thought she should know.

    What bothers me the most is that even though Jocelyn seems to be way older than me, she started acting as if I was at fault and that I owed her an explanation for my ex living a double life. I am glad that it’s not my life that is ruined that it’s hers, as she has chosen to be with this god awful guy. I would NEVER go back to my ex, however, I still have a ton of anger towards my ex for betraying me. I just hope I am able to let go and just move on.

  24. HI My Name is rosida, I wish to share my testimonies with the general public about what this man called prophet jakula has just done for me , this man has just brought back my lost family to me, i was married to this man called macaulay we were together for 7yrs and we loved our self’s but when i was unable to give him a child, he left me and told me he can’t continue anymore. Ever since then I’av been looking for ways to get him back until a friend of mine told me about this man and gave me his contant email yo me then you wont believe this when i contacted this man and tell him my problems he prepared this spell and bring my lost husband back and after a month i miss my mesis and go for a test and the result stated am pregnant am happy today because am a mother of a baby girl, thank you once again the great prophet jakula for what you have done for me, if you are out there passing through this same kind of problems and even worse you can contact him today on his mail prophetjakula@gmail.com and he will also help you as well with his great spell,

  25. My name is Frankline Jenifer, from USA I never believed in love spells or magic until i met this spell caster once when i went to Africa in February this year on a business summit. I meant a man who’s name is DR HERCULES he is really powerful and could help cast spells to bring back one’s gone, lost, misbehaving lover and magic money spell or spell for a good job or luck spell .I’m now happy & a living testimony cos the man i had wanted to marry left me 3 weeks before our wedding and my life was upside down cos our relationship has been on for 6years. I really loved him, but his mother was against us and he had no good paying job. So when i met this spell caster, i told him what happened and explained the situation of things to him. At first i was undecided, skeptical and doubtful, but i just gave it a try. And in 7 days when i returned to usa, my boyfriend (now husband) called me by himself and came to me apologizing that everything had been settled with his mom and family and he got a new job interview so we should get married. I didn’t believe it cos the spell caster only asked for my name and my boyfriends name and all i wanted him to do. Well we are happily married now and we are expecting our little kid, and my husband also got the new job and our lives became much better. His email is GREATHERCULESSPELLTEMPLE@GMAIL.COM

    1. We all have different reasons why those of us who contacted Akpe Osilama to help us make our faithful to us some of us did it for lover, because of their children or health condition or even because they wanted not to be alone. For me it was non of those though i love my husband and don’t want to raise our teens alone . The reason why i contacted Akpe Osilama to help me with a spell truly was because my husband was running for one of the seats in the Riksdag,the national legislative body of Sweden. Now i am not going to say if he won or under what party for security reasons i did not ask for a spell to make him win or something NO i just asked for a spell to make him stop being a chronic Womanizer it was going to affect his campaign. I have lived with him for 20 years and after countless occasions of catching him cheating on me i have come to live with him like that though it hurts to death. I wish i knew all along all those years about Akpe the Great spell caster maybe my life would not have been this way. Like i was saying, His womanizing behavior got him into a lot of trouble and if any of those stories where to hit the press it would have destroyed his life and this political career and probably landed him in jail. With all the advise from me and his advisories of his campaigning team it was still not enough to bring him to caution. I went to the extreme to make sure he stops willingly or unwillingly that is i meant with some of his lover and asked to pay them off but they were not ready to let go it. I think he offered them something more that money that even with the amount i offered them, they all refused and believe me it was very surprising and they will turn down a large amount of money. We my husband got to know about it he mad mad at me and gave all sort of threats. I was confused and his opposition were digging to find dirt on him and still was so convinced that they will not find anything but they did only with no evidence that was how lucky we were. Right then i took matters in my hand and contacted Akpe Osilama with the email address i saw on the internet i contacted him and told him what i want him to do for me to make my husband be faithful to me till our dying day and make all those people looking for how to bring down my husband stop. OK note my husband is a very honest man who would not hurt a fly he was just careless and always picked the wrong kinds of woman that get him in trouble. Akpe Osilama asked that i provide 4 kind of item me being so careful employed expert to help me get those materials mailed them over to him. I sent a total some of 3000 dollars when converting from Swedish Krona to American dollars. And it much much cheaper if i had asked him to get them for me. But whats done is done. Just after four day sent me a package, not telling its content but is totally harmless and told me how to make the spell effective. I did as he told me and in two my husband somehow magically broke tires with all the women he was involved with i don’t know how it happen and those people trying to kill his political ambition stopped immediately. I wish i knew this Great man all along my life would have been perfect. His campaign team did not understand how i did it and what i did they were just happy all the worse is past. What wow me the most about Akpe Osilama was that he told me the out come of the election before the election date last year because all this happened last year and just what he said will happen really came to pass. And again i can’t give full info because of security reasons. I little advise for those that are going to contact him via this email (chiefpriestakpeosilamaspellcast@ (yahoo). com) rewrite to usual email format if you are asked for material to do the spell don’t go about it yourself Because you will waste a lot time and money on it and get to see asking him to get them for you with the total cost you wire to him will save you a lot. You have nothing be be afraid you can trust him with anything Because all he does is help people no matter how hard it may be.

    2. This comment i Susan is placing is not like the day by day advert you read online before!! Its a comment that you must read to avoid been ripped off and know the real spell caster on earth God sent to change and turn lives around without any harm / side effect.
      I am so over joyful as my month can not start to say all that really happened, It happened when i saw Ajayi advert online talking about been the best when there are so many spell casters online that i have used that has failed me.I spent almost close to $8000 dollars online for those spell casters that ripped me off my money without any result. But when i saw Dr Ajayi advert online saying that there is no spell caster like him and so many other testimonies about him from various people and from various countries in the world were it was written that ololo spell temple is the best that there is non to be compared to his work, Already i have personally take a decision never to apply to any spell caster online again after loosing such amount of funds on line to those scammers.But i don’t really know what drew my spirit / attention to that advert online that faithful afternoon, { I call it a faithful afternoon because all i desire was granted to me. } There was an email at the end of his advert and on the good comment from the FBI and various people about him, I decided to send him an email telling him my problem about my lost job, money that i have lost to scammers and also having problems with the love of my life that i want to get married to. After some few minutes i received an email from him that contain the spell application form that i filled out and he told me that to get my spell casted that i will have to get some items that i could not get here when i went in-search for it. He said if i can not get the items, That is going to cost me an amount of just $390 dollars for my kind of case that i told him about which i doubted to be another scam online, As i have read so many tips online that money should not be sent to someone you do not know via western union / money gram payment information’s. And Dr Ajayi insisted that i will be sending money to his messenger via this wire means. I was so skeptical because i was scammed in such a way of $700 dollars before,But this same spirits that attracted me to his advert told me inside again that this spell caster is real and noting but real that i should go ahead and send him the amount since i know that there is no how i can get the items that he told me that will be needed for my case. I sent him the charges through his messenger to please help me get the item with the money to get my spell casted.He promised me that in the next 5 to 7 hours that i will start to see results after the spell has been casted to get the love of my life back and others. I could not believe this because i have really been scammed and ripped off too many times for me to just believe till it works. To be sincere i almost faint as i was filled with so much excitement and happiness when my lost lover for over almost 9 months call was entering my phone and i picked the call were he ask if we can see to take things over and also my boss called me to tell me to come for training on my terminated job also due to too many thinking that in the office that result to it. Then in the next 2 days the FBI called to tell me that they have been able to get the scammer that is with my money. I am so proud and happy to spread the good-news about this man because he surprised me in his wonderful and powerfully work that restored back to me my heart desires. One thing that i also loved about this man is that he is understandable and he reduce or negotiate how much you can get for the work you want him to help you with. You want to meet with this great,most powerful spell caster that is 100% scam free,Just send your emails to this email: ajayiololo @ yahoo.com as you will get help from him without any disappointment. ADD THE @ AND , TOGETHER TO FORM A NORMAL EMAIL TO CONTACT

  26. hey you guy’s
    I think it sucks, that girls like me don’t even no a guys gay or bi. cause i never had the chance to hang out with gay guys, etc… i feel like a dork, i feel like the bi guys are making fun of me in front of my face. sorry, but my experience just last year, has made me somewhat homophobic. i think im in love with a gay guy in the closet. help… i said i think… having a hard time with his gay porn and the mean degrading porn sites he watches and laughs at… this to me is a red flag, and not something i want to see, or deal with. this is not a normal male, female thing… its a gay, hate woman thing… that’s what i think.. almost two years into this and this guy has more sick problems

  27. hey you guy’s
    I think it sucks, that girls like me don’t even no a guys gay or bi. cause i never had the chance to hang out with gay guys, etc… i feel like a dork, i feel like the bi guys are making fun of me in front of my face. sorry, but my experience just last year, has made me somewhat homophobic. i think im in love with a gay guy in the closet. help… i said i think… having a hard time with his gay porn and the mean degrading porn sites he watches and laughs at… this to me is a red flag, and not something i want to see, or deal with. this is not a normal male, female thing… its a gay, hate woman thing… that’s what i think.. almost two years into this and this guy has more sick problems than any person i know. and i am trying to distance myself from him, but can’t believe its so hard. i have no idea on how to compete with a dude.. and i do not want to or should not have to. i am a beautiful, smart, great body, no kids, no baggage, rich, 50’s and lonely. that’s the problem. i like myself, love men.. never even thought i would be in this spot. but here i am, still wondering about men

    1. Am gay also and its the same thing for us with bi men, i went through hell with one.Really loved him to death, i thought life was all good.Only to face the usual weird confusion phase beginning, horrid porn discovery and worse verbal insults and degrading torture of how i aint a woman.Worse no remorse for his actions.I became sort of heterophobic, began to hate every man with a passion, for a short time but i learnt my lesson.To love myself first and ensure the guy your dating, i should first learn his sexual history before agreeing to anything serious. I love monogamy and commitment, am not having a relationship where its a public toilet for all.

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  30. I was reading your pasted relationship.and im going thru almost the same thing. Ive been with my man for 4years now. And i came up where he goes to school without letting him know. That i had a bad feeling about something to do with him. While when i visited. Unannounced. He was in bed naked and he never does that. And he jumped up and proposed to me on the spot.( weird) his first mistake. And i used his phone to look up something and what pops up. A m4m site on craigslist. So being the persin i am . I asked what the heck is this? And he said he hit the wrong site. Well i said ok left it alone. The next morning he was leaving for school. I told him when he didnt have time to think about it. Cause he had to get ti school. My phones messed up can i use your phone today baby ;). Found out as well as he found out . Im a god of phone programming .lol and when he came home. We sit down and and said who ,what,when, and where. I know already proofs on your phone. All your deleted MESSAGES ARE IN YOUR INBOX !!! Now if you dont telle everything IM GONE!! He told me everything but one thing. He said i love you and want to be with you. I was curious and its not for me. So i gave him his ring back and told him curious George dies from HIV . I told him craigslist 101 most of the personals on this site are people looking to hurt you. And dont care about you or themselves. He still calling wNting me back. And the last thing i said to him was i love you and youll miss me when im gone.now my ex husband and my ex fiancee,can cry together. I deal with alot in a relationship. But i dont deal with cheaters,thieves or liers!!!! So what im sayn is if i can get thru my last 16years of lies and cheaters . Anybody can.

    1. I am going thru the same thing this week, he said he would quit but honestly after countless encounters with guys on craigslist I don’t think I can do it. doubting who he is on the phone with, where he is going too much energy wasted on that. I came to the conclusion that because I love him so much I should let him go. He should go find himself, what he likes, what he doesn’t. He wanted to marry me but that would be a selfish and too hard for me. Oh well we live and we learn. Sometimes you just have to accept it and take your loss with a grain of salt.

  31. Three months before my wedding the worst happened. Actually, in some way it was good (only in hindsight) , because for the first time in years I followed my heart and gut and found out the truth. He was sleeping with someone else … a man, shit. I had no idea how to deal with this information and was and am still mortified. How could I have never known, how could I have agreed to marry a man that wants to be with other men? I am normally a very extroverted person who loves being social and has made a career of it. I have since found myself hiding out in my little seaside home, alone most days, terrified to get back into a public life. I have thought at length about leaving my small, rural fishing village and even traveled across the country to test the waters on the other coast. But I just don’t want to. I am very slowly getting back the confidence I once had, but I am sure I will never, ever be entirely convinced of relationship security again. Thank you so much for sharing your story. It is an incredible thing to know you are not the only gal going through a balls out hell of a time.

  32. Anyone who has been in an off and on relationship can tell how frustrating it is. Most especially when you love them so much like they know you so well to know that no matter the circumstance in which the break up is based on, you are always gonna make up and start from a fresh page with them. Almost like you can not do without them and your life revolves round them which is literally speaking true. My relationship with my boyfriend was one such off and on thing only that he was the one who constantly kept breaking my heart and each time i kept crawling back to him like i had no life aside from that i shared with him. We started dating backing in 2010 and from 2010 to late 2013 he played with my heart knowing i was always gonna come back to him. He knew he could break up with me to date other guys he feels like and at the end of the day come back asking for a second chance and believe me it was always a second chance to me. It was either he wants to date another guys or he’s telling me that he is not sure he can be in a relationship with apparently cos he needed to find out what he wants in life and discover who he is. Most people asked why didn’t i just move on and find someone who was more worthy of my love. Yes i should have done just that but i can give a thousand reason why i always go back to him at the end of this entire text it will fall back to this that “I LOVE HIM WITH MY LIFE”. I could not see my whole life without him in it so basically i was a fool in love. No matter how i convince myself to hate him and make him suffer for all he did to me it was impossible for me to accomplish. It was like he had something over him that always drew me back to him no matter what the condition might be. I was in pain. It hurt me down to my soul hat he was so indecisive about what he wanted for us all those time. For about 2 years and 8 months i was literally his bitch that he does what he like to and dispose. I really didn’t know if he did all he did on purpose or f it was as a result of his indecisive nature. What ever it was i didn’t like cos all i wanted was to spend the rest of my life with him. Blame me or don’t on the basis of stupidity what’s done is done i contacted a spell caster to help get him in the path i wanted for us. I did this early this year. I was not going to say anything until i was sure that what Metodo Acamu did was for real. I was not going to start misleading people to do what does not exist. I can tell you without now doubt that the spell worked for me and also i have seen a couple of comment Online about Metodo Acamu it is obvious that all he does is make people lives better in every way and bring people out from what ever hellhole they where in. I should tell you that he is one of the only few if not the only one true spell caster that can help you out in any condition. Not cos i saw a couple of comments Online like that of Nicholas Zachary but because all these comments were written by real life people who have gone and seen the authenticity of Metodo Acamu. I asked Metodo Acamu to put my boyfriend in the right path i wanted for the two of us, to help kill that indecisive nature he had in him to make him mine and mine only forever. You should all know he did just that for me and the spell he cast changed our lives in ways you can’t imagine and the best part is that he didn’t take i single pound from me. I only gave him something out of my discretion as a sign of gratefulness for what he did for me. However Metodo Acamu asked me to get some materials which we used for the spell casting process. I will be opened with you all at first, i thought he wanted to use the required materials as a medium to get money form me but it turned out that he made it clear to me that without those materials it will me impose to do any spell just like cooking without food stuff. Even then he told me to either get the materials to temple by myself or parcel it over to him or to send him the money to get the materials for me if i can’t find them. I had to send the money to him cos it was even more less expensive that way. You should also know he is trust worthy you can trust him with anything. Here is his personal contact got it Online when i contacted him thought i should also leave it here maybe for those who need to contact Metodo Acamu {metodoacamufortressx at yahoo dot com}

  33. There is a lot i have to say but i really don’t know were to start from. I guess i will have to build my story, that is life story form the begin but will try has much to make it short. I fell in love with my boyfriend Daxson about three years ago and since then we have being living together. We are not married or engaged because like he said he wanted to finish his med school and all that. I was not even bothered because we were in love and as long as there is love who really need marriage and somehow even with all the stress he was going through, he finds the time to make me feel loved always. He is literally the definition caring. But here is the twister i never knew or rather he never told me he was scared for being a father at least we never talk about it because it never crossed our mind and we always i mean always played it safe. I was on my pills and he always used protection. Like they say, i guess when its time its time like, i got pregnant. Looking at it then i will say, that was my greatest mistake in life only now i see a baby is really a blessing. Ok let me go back on track. When i told him about it, i couldn’t say he was happy or sad but he had an expression on his face like “de f*** i ve got med school and now this ?” but he assured me, it was fine and he was happy and we are going to do it together as a family and i wished all that where true. On my third trimester, he said to my face he was not ready to be a father and was not going to do it with me anymore and that he doesn’t think he is gonna be a good father. We all know its hard to believe soon we all gonna be parents but for real, it comes when we are not even prepared for it and all we can do then is accept it as it comes. I tried to make him see what he was doing to me and his baby i mean i loved him so much and i was the happiest woman alive to be carrying his child i just wished he was too. He was not even there to see his girl when she was born he just left me and our baby. I could not understand why i was just too heart broken knowing that he has been the only one in my life for three years and now he just left me with some silly excuse i could not understand. I literally became a single mom for four months before Metodo Acamu a witch doctor helped me get back the man i love. Its not like i couldn’t do it all alone i mean take care of my baby girl its just that i loved him so much that i could not leave without him and all i could think of was him. Even with all that happened i could not bring myself to hate him i was only heart broken and wished i could get him back. When i contact Motodo Acamu ,he asked me to get some materials of which he was going to use to prepare a spell that was coming to reunite me, Daxson and April my baby girl. I sent him the money for the materials because it was less stressful and he made me see he was an honest and truthful witch doctor. He helped me a lot, he sent a package to me which i paid for . He told me to burning the content of package with the incense he sent along with the content of the package and in seven days Daxson will be my one and only again. Just as Metodo Acamu said it happened. I can say i was surprise because i have never done this kind of thing before and i was not so sure how it will play out. Though i made Daxson beg, i had to let him into my life and that of April again because that was all i ever wanted. And the spell is totally safe like Metodo Acamu told me and the love is real because the spell only made him see how much i mean to him and how much his life revolves around April and i . Everyone has his or her own opinion about the witch doctor Metodo Acamu but for me he is the reason my family is complete and happy if you want to Contact him use this email
    metodoacamufortressx@ yah oo. com note please use the normal email format where all words and character are joined together

  34. This is a fact that i know and every woman that will be reading this also know. We will do anything possible to keep or get the one one we love though we might go about it in different ways but what does it matter how we went about it all that matters, is that we get them. My now husband for two years was not always in love with me me he only saw me as this close friend and personal assistance. He was married to a very beautiful nice woman. I always prayed i would get to have a very happy family like the he had with his ex wife. You could fill the love and passion in the air just as you walk into their home. This ought not be be my story to tell but still i will because he is my husband now. After four years of their beautiful marriage, i say beautiful because they loved each other at least i know my husband loved her then. His ex wife out got really sick he developed stroke. It was really bad but he never left her side he always always there for her. He was always in the hospital with her day and night. I just though he was the bravest and caring man that i have ever know. And yeah, she got well but not all the way i mean she came back but not her love and affection. I don’t know maybe it was the sickness that changed her or she never really loved my husband and felt he was the cause of her problem her sickness and all the bad things that had happened to her since they meant. She gave him hell, she got mad at him over every little thing she stopped him form seeing all his friend and female friends and even made him fire me. She was obsessed with things like he was cheating on her and his friends are telling him to leave her. She was diagnosed and was free form psychological break down. I don’t know she just developed hatred for my now husband. She constantly threatened to take everything form him his house, constructing firm and even with that he still loved her. He would complain to me all day about what’s happening telling me how he wants to fix thing between him and her even when it became really bad that they no longer shared the same bed she would not let him touch her. I thought it was my chance with him but i was fooling myself because yeah i told him how i felt for him and i thrown myself at him but it did not work he still wanted to be with his wife. He live like that with her for one year. I loved him and he was suffering i wanted to set him free from her so i contacted a powerful spell caster Obudun Magonata to help me make him love me. He asked me to get some materials which was hard for me to find because i would have had to break many laws and got my self in trouble so i just wired the expense to him and after four days my wise came true he loved me just as he love his ex wife i was the apple of the eye just like how he was the apple of my eye but Obudun Magonata told me that his ex wife would let let us be and she will frustrate our love until we give up and just as he told me it happened he wanted 70% of everything my husband had and the court was already in her favor plus she was from a very powerful family. That brought another problem he was ready to loss all he had for us but still he did not want to loss them but thanks to Obudun Magonata He helped use with another spell that made her drop the case and just signed the papers to let use be together. I t was mind blowing what Obudun Magonata did for us it not just as you read now it was so supernatural. Even before i had my first child he told me that we will last forever till death because of the two kids i will bear for him. Its also coming to pass i have a 2 years old son and i am pregnant for the second child now.Only those like me who Obudun Magonata have helped knows how powerful he is. Only him can solve the unsolved if you need his help use this email (spiritsofobudunmagonata@ (yahoo). com) rewrite this email in the standard email format to use.

  35. If you have been reading comment online about this spell caster Obudun Magonata it will be easy for me to tell you this that he couldn’t get any more really that he is already. I have come to a conclusion that the gift he possess and his good heart are the strongest most powerful thing i have ever known. He is the most straight forward person and most understanding anyone can ever meet. He did not even ask for my money he just asked me to get materials that will be needed for the spell and that was it. To start, i am an alcoholic and also have a strong addiction for gambling. I lost almost a 100 grand on internet gambling and still did not stop at the same time i was drinking heavily i got suspended form work for a duration of four years because of my drinking problem & my home, i destroyed it with by myself. I was unfaithful to my wife several times and she knew what was happening, i kept yelling over nothing on my girls. My addiction to gambling and drinking was complimentary i was losing a lot of money and still playing and was drinking a lot to calm my nerves. The addiction made me numb my feelings was gone. My wife , my girls saw me as a monster. I remember this day, my wife told me it as my second girl’s birthday the other week and my responds was “grown *** girls don’t celebrate their birthday and if she wanted to she can as well go get a job so she can use want she earn to celebrate every day of her life”. I still can’t believe i said that to my wife and on top of that her sister was right there. My wife was hurt it was written all over her face her face and she told me ” I don’t even know who you are any more where is the man that use to be the human shield of this family ? that man would never had said anything to hurt me or his kids you don’t even care that you are scaring h*** out of this girls? one more of this and i am out” there i told her i don’t need them they were weighing me down that there were burden on me. Those words still hunts me till this day i can believe i really said all those words. My wife left me and off course with the kids and foolish drunk me happily signed the divorce papers. Honestly i don’t know maybe it because i was drunk most of the the day, i felt go i get gambling and kept drinking losing big and winning little waking up with different ladies on my bed every morning. I was like this for two years, and i felt i was on top of the world but my friend made me see i had nothing anymore his wife won’t let him talk to me or hang out with me i gradually felt empty. At a point i saw i needed to get clean and actually committed to my self to AA off course it was hard to admit but with my friends help i got committed. I was six months clean from alcohol and gambling when i discovered my wife was see another man and they were going to get married. I was still in love with her. She was mad when she saw me, she wanted nothing to do with me, my girls hated me because of me they could not even look at me. I tried to get close and got a restraining order. I needed to be my family again i know i ruined it by myself i just wanted to make it up to them i failed then and i wanted to redeem myself to show them the man that use to be the human shield of his family is back i found him again. Obudun Magonata was the man that help me made it happen. It was the course of find a away to reach my wife i found this great spell caster. I did not have the privilege of meeting but like he told other he had helped, some of them met him in real time. He told me after the spell casting my wife , my child will love me like we never fell apart they would know i messed up but they will not care about it any more. I got the materials that was required of me by i got i mean i asked him to help me sending over to him the total cost because most of the materials where only found in the heart of Libya. Just after the spell process was concluded a package was sent to me i can’t disclose its content but it rest easy it could not even harm a fly. He told me what to do with it and all he said will happen happened. I had my family back my wife , my child and i are once again that happy family i lost. I was still on suspension he told he i will get a call to come back to work and i did just after all he did for me. This spell caster he has something that saves lives. Am glad i met him all he promised me he did i wish i could me more grateful. I will leave his email contact like those other person that did in there comment or article which ever this is spiritsofobudunmagonata ‘ at ‘ ‘ yahoo ‘ ‘ dot ‘ ‘ com ~~~

  36. How to restore a failing relationship Unlike the movies we see, every relationship will not always been happy forever. Something or factors are always there to drop the relationship you have given all. It may be due to dishonesty, failing to funding, lack of understanding, the requirement of unemployment and so on. It will take more than a lot to save a relationship failing to take i’ve been there. Now I know some ways that can help restore a failing relationship that will work, it forms the background to the latest high ultimate way I know. Understanding: Understanding is a way to restore a default relationship.But as easy as it sounds, it is the most difficult task accomplish.Why is it? let see. In a relationship is like to be that person who has never heard as he or she does not exist. Men feel like everything he says or does is just because they are men and they think they need to be still in charge because men are heard and women feel like they have need to be heard and their opinion counts a lot. If the two can not balance this, I see no hope for this relationship because after so many struggles resulting from misunderstandings they call the end. Stable finances: This is especially for men. It is important to have a stable finance, because a lot of bad things can happen due to financial difficulties. Even if your spouse choose to stay with you through troubled times, you can see that the default and before you know little things and talk about money leads to fight and as you know the relationship falls. But stable finances can restore a failing relationship in a measure before some other factors plans. Couple Counseling: This for a very long time is the last point of almost all couples before the final relationship fall.Here terminal are either restored or destroyed.Couple Council recorded a large amount of success over the years, but does not guarantee that the relationship will remain strong for long time.Studies show that most relationships recorded by the board experienced a positive change for up to 3-5 years before failing again and some even comes experienced no change. I’m not saying couples therapy does not work I simply say, it does not really guarantee a lasting relationship. D’Amour spell: For me, this is the only way that you and someone you love will always be, as they have promised you. My marriage had its largest penalty the board, understanding and all the things I wrote above, and the only thing that worked for me was the Ajayi Ololo fate did for me. It was the only help I seeked that actually worked for me which is why I say is the Ultimate.My friend who advised me to contact a spell caster remained married to her husband for ten years and some months now because of love Ajayi Ololo fate of her.I can not speak of my own because its just been two months .I you want to save your relationship Contact your roulette with this email ajayiololo @ (yahoo). com. Warning: use this email in the regular mail format

  37. Hi Kiri! I had a similar experience.i was once a gurl who never wanted to get married as i thought that is too boring…i had been w/ a loser athlete that my family and friends hated. We were about to move in together when he left me.after that i thought of straightening up my life,look for a husband material and start a family.i met my husband, a doctor at the top hospital in my country.everyone loved him.he’s the typical good boy.after getting married i found out that he was emotionally and physically abusive.months after he admitted to me that he hangs out w/ gay men and also does drugs w/ them.a month after that he died of aids!i really cant believe everything that happened to me.as for u,my only advise is u get tested asap!

  38. How i got my lovely husband back and this miracle was done by Lama Lama spells on his email lamalamaoracletemple @live.com

  39. All Americans, Europeans and to everyone that has given up on spell casters like me before now, Either because you have been scammed like me or let down by the spell caster parading themselves to be real and can grant solution to any form of problem in life, It a great thing for me let you all know that the only one out of millions of the spell caster in the world that can grant you results is Dr AJAYI. He is the only spell caster that granted solution to me to win a lottery what $15,000,000.00 dollars. His spell worked for Mari, That i and my wife read his post and it worked for me and without negotiations to you out there it will work for you. Just email ((( ajayiololo @ yahoo . com ))) to resolve and grant permanent solution to that problem.

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  41. I’ve been dating my girl for 5 years and we have just broke up because she told me she likes someone else but she say she still loves me… the next week she left the house and said she needs to find herself??? and i wanted her to be with me by living were i live, forget about her ex’s, having a good job and being in a healthy relationship which leads to marriage and kids. but she has been planning to leave me since and when i knew about her plan i gave her space maybe she will come back?? but if she don’t then i had to find someone to help me bring her back so i did contacted robinson.buckler@ yahoo. com after 3 days of casting his spell my girlfriend returned back to crying to me that she will never make a step without me again, that she will always love me till death. i am still surprised how Robinson made this wonders to happen

  42. […]I’ve been dating my girl for 5 years and we have just broke up because she told me she likes someone else but she say she still loves me… the next week she left the house and said she needs to find herself??? and i wanted her to be with me by living were i live, forget about her ex’s, having a good job and being in a healthy relationship which leads to marriage and kids. but she has been planning to leave me since and when i knew about her plan i gave her space maybe she will come back?? but if she don’t then i had to find someone to help me bring her back so i did contacted robinson.buckler@ yahoo. com after 3 days of casting his spell my girlfriend returned back to crying to me that she will never make a step without me again, that she will always love me till death. i am still surprised how Robinson made this wonders to happen[…]

  43. […]I’ve been dating my girl for 5 years and we have just broke up because she told me she likes someone else but she say she still loves me… the next week she left the house and said she needs to find herself??? and i wanted her to be with me by living were i live, forget about her ex’s, having a good job and being in a healthy relationship which leads to marriage and kids. but she has been planning to leave me since and when i knew about her plan i gave her space maybe she will come back?? but if she don’t then i had to find someone to help me bring her back so i did contacted robinson.buckler @ yahoo . com after 3 days of casting his spell my girlfriend returned back to crying to me that she will never make a step without me again, that she will always love me till death. i am still surprised how Robinson made this wonders to happen[…]

  44. I found out my husband was hooking up with men for a 12 year period. I thought I was going to die is what I felt like on the inside, like how could he do this to me and how did I not know…. He said he didn’t feel gay because he didn’t want to live with men or even have a relationship with them, all he wanted was the fast fun sex he was having with them, uncomplicated and exciting.
    I stayed with him and we both went to counseling and have grown together much more than I would have thought, but to ever fully trust again will forever be lost for me, I know now that no matter how much someone tells you that they love you and cares for you and as sweet as they are there is always something hidden and deceitful about them. So I totally understand the mixed-up love….

  45. I foud out after 25 years of marrage my man was bi. I had signs all along and ask and he always convenced me It was my imagination. I had a mental breakdown and was unable to ever work in my profession. Was put on disability and my check were to my husband for me. I feel trapped. He still tried to tell me everything was in the past. I had more suspicions he said I was imagining things. So knowing God knows everything. I asked God to reveal the truth. I was on vacation with family and got a phone call from sister in law. She said my husband had been arrested for sexual misconduct in a city park that had trails. His picture and the other mans picture was on the news the TV. I came home he would not let me talk about it. Sad to say Im still living with him 47 plus years. We lost our home of 35 years as he lost his job and I could not work any more. I was so devastated over everywhere I went people knew. So then he moved us . And its still going on I know. I see the men that live here and its the same bunch hanging out together. One in particular. The guy comes over but does not talk to me. Infact when Im gone and come home he is there, when I arrive he leaves. Im 65 now cant afford a place of my own we are living in the same house but distance apart. My whole life has been a joke living with him and being used. The only time he talks to me is if he needs food ect. He has his own locked IPad. Many years ago I came to the group on treasure Island. Where we got together and supported each other. I miss that…. Then there are Two married men 3 houses from me. They were married to women with children before this. One day Im going to pick there brains to why did They do this to their families.

  46. My heart was filled with remorse and pain for the past 7 months when my husband ended our marriage and went to his EX lover because i was not able to give him a son. I was so devastated and almost committed suicide because of the love and affection i had for my husband. I searched and asked everyone i knew for help but all my efforts were useless not until i was refereed to Doctor Casera by Oliver who i met online that he could be of help to my marriage for he has helped her before. I got in touch with the Doctor and i poured out everything i had in mind to him and he encouraged me and promised to make me smile and make me live a better life by getting my husband back with his powers between just 24 hours. I believed in him and to my very eyes, my husband came on his knees pleading for forgiveness to come back and rectify his mistakes and today we are living with so much Joy and happiness. If anyone out there needs help of any-kind, get in touch with the Doctor now for he will help you out.. E-mail: relationshipsolutionhome@hotmail.com

  47. How to get your ex back fast!

    I was hurt and heart broken when a very big problem occurred in my marriage seven months ago, between me and my husband . so terrible that he took the case to court for a divorce. he said that he never wanted to stay with me again,and that he didn’t love me anymore. So he packed out of the house and made me and my children passed through severe pain. I tried all my possible means to get him back,after much begging,but all to no avail.and he confirmed it that he has made his decision,and he never wanted to see me again. So on one evening,as i was coming back from work,i met an old friend of mine who asked of my husband .So i explained every thing to him,so he told me that the only way i can get my husband back,is to visit a spell caster,because it has really worked for him too. So i never believed in spell,but i had no other choice,than to follow his advice. Then he gave me the Email address of the spell caster whom he visited. Pristbacasim2000@gmail.com. So the next morning,i sent a mail to the address he gave to me,and the spell caster assured me that i will get my husband back the next day. What an amazing statement!! I never believed,so he spoke with me, and told me everything that i need to do. Then the next morning, So surprisingly, my husband who didn’t call me for the past 7 months, gave me a call to inform me that he was coming back. So Amazing!! So that was how he came back that same day,with lots of love and joy,and he apologized for his mistake,and for the pain he caused me and my children. Then from that day,our relationship was now stronger than how it were before,by the help of a spell caster. So, i will advice you out there if you have any kind of problem, Please i will advice you to contact Pristbacasim, i give you 100% guarantee that he will help you solve your problems.. Email him at: Pristbacasim2000@gmail.com or call him on +2349031655970

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