Becoming A Confident Woman of Action

March 1, 2010 16 Comments TAGS: Beauty, Career, Motherhood

“Sometimes you have to let everything go – purge yourself. If you are unhappy with anything – whatever is bringing you down – get rid of it. Because you will find that when you are free, your true creativity, your true self comes out.”

~ Tina Turner

I love Tina Turner and everything she stands for – confidence, tenacity, resilience, woman of action. If I asked you who you consider to be a woman of action, what would you answer?
Gloria Steinem? Oprah Winfrey? Hillary Clinton? Eunice Kennedy Shriver?

Eunice Kennedy Shriver

Eunice Kennedy Shriver

When I think about the woman I am and the woman I want to become, I realize that much work is to be done.  It’s true, I’m only 34, and I hopefully have many more years of life experiences and growth ahead of me, but I have such a thirst for knowledge and creating a better version of myself, it gets tiresome sometimes. I am constantly striving to achieve a life that’s meaningful, impactful, while still managing to have a kick-ass good ‘ol time in the process. It’s true that our life experiences help shape us into the person we are, but it is up to us to decide what version of ourselves we want to be in the future.

I had the pleasure of having a fellow Blogger (YummyMummyClub.ca) and all around great lady over for lunch this weekend, Erica Ehm. Growing up in Canada as a total music junkie, I have endless memories of watching VJ Erica Ehm on MuchMusic (Our version of MTV).  Because of Blogging and Twitter (and unfortunately on a funeral on her end), our worlds collided, and Erica and her kids ended up at my house for lunch on Saturday.  Imagine us, two  Erica M’s – Erica Ehm and me, Erica M (my maiden name is Mintz). We chatted about life, Blogging, the kids, career and all things woman. She was just that… a confident woman of action. It was refreshing. Erica, wherever you are, you inspired me!

But it’s true. There are few things more attractive in a woman than inner confidence.  A woman who wears confidence in a non egotistical way radiates strength, conviction and passion. And it can be contagious. A confident woman knows who she is. A confident woman knows herself, through and through, and isn’t afraid to appear vulnerable. She understands her purpose, and she uses her god given gifts to her advantage. A confident woman isn’t afraid to be herself. Confident women are often women of action. It’s the feeling inside that no matter what it is that ignites you, the urge to follow your passion is so strong, and nothing and no one can hold you down.

confident woman of action

If you feel like you’ve been holding back, and that now is your time to be a Confident Woman Of Action, here are some tips:

1. Face your fears – I promise you, they aren’t as bad as you think. When you face your fears, dead on, your confidence will increase. It will take you out of your comfort zone, but it will make you believe in yourself.

2. Forget your failures – If you’ve failed, I always say, never ignore the message. There’s no future in the past. Mistakes are made all the time, but you must always learn from them. When you don’t ignore the message, you learn, and when you learn, you grow. When you grow, your confidence grows and you’re then able to make better decisions, more sound decisions.

3. Know what you want and never be afraid to ask for it. You always hear this in sex talk– “Tell your partner how you like it, and don’t be afraid to speak up.” It’s also true in life. When you ask for what you need, you instantly feel more assertive and confident. Everyone deserves to have their dreams come true. Why shouldn’t you try to make that happen?

4. Dive into something you’re passionate about. Once you increase your confidence, make a list of 3 things you hope to accomplish in the next 6 months. Try and work towards those goals, bit by bit each day. You should feel like you’ve contributed, and done something of impact at the end of a day. Not just like you simply went through the motions, yet another day.

5. Celebrate Milestones! – When you’ve achieved one of your goals, it’s cause for celebration! Break out the bubbly, a glass of wine, a lunch date with some girlfriends, a massage, a romantic date with your honey! Successes are meant to be soaked up and enjoyed.

So ladies, I often ask you to make a commitment to yourself. I talk about how we all deserve to be happy. We do! But you also should think about how you’re going to better yourself, and become a woman of action. I have made a commitment to improving my existence and trying to help others get off the fence and live their life to its fullest. What’s your commitment?

Feel free to write your goals and aspirations right here and your action plan on how you are going to become a confident woman of action?

Happy Monday! And please don’t forget, if you’re TEAM EDWARD, Robert Pattinson from The Twilight Saga is on The View tomorrow. Yowzer!!!

xoxEDxox

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    16 Comments

    1. […] you complain. Think about all the time you could be spending actually making your life better and becoming a woman of action. If the service is slow at a restaurant I’m eating at, my husband dies, but I get up, and […]

    2. […] He taught me that growing up lacking many resources makes you stronger in the end and is not a bad thing. Fortunately, I didn’t learn that one first hand, but I may as well have. It’s been ingrained in me since birth. I have an immense value for a dollar. I eat every morsel of food on my plate… Every. Single. Morsel. I conserve. I don’t waste. I’m most comfortable in sweats, no makeup and being unfancy. And I know that bad things happen for a reason, and we must never ignore the message. […]

    3. […] He taught me that growing up lacking many resources makes you stronger in the end and is not a bad thing. Fortunately, I didn’t learn that one first hand, but I may as well have. It’s been ingrained in me since birth. I have an immense value for a dollar. I eat every morsel of food on my plate… Every. Single. Morsel. I conserve. I don’t waste. I’m most comfortable in sweats, no makeup and being unfancy. And I know that bad things happen for a reason, and we must never ignore the message. […]

    4. […] He taught me that growing up lacking many resources makes you stronger in the end and is not a bad thing. Fortunately, I didn’t learn that one first hand, but I may as well have. It’s been ingrained in me since birth. I have an immense value for a dollar. I eat every morsel of food on my plate… Every. Single. Morsel. I conserve. I don’t waste. I’m most comfortable in sweats, no makeup and being unfancy. And I know that bad things happen for a reason, and we must never ignore the message. […]

    5. […] year ago, Erica Diamond of Women on the Fence wrote an inspiring piece about the Women of Action who had influenced her by their inner confidence, conviction and passion. Who inspires you? When […]

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    7. ColetteNo Gravatar says:

      Very inspirational! Just what I needed today.

    8. […] your children. When you feel good about yourself, this breeds positivity. Don’t be afraid to be confident. As women, we’re often told to sit quietly, to be a lady. But remember, you can still be a […]

    9. […] year ago, Erica Diamond of Women on the Fence wrote an inspiring piece about the Women of Action who had influenced her by their inner confidence, conviction and passion. Who inspires you? When […]

    10. […] He taught me that growing up lacking many resources makes you stronger in the end and is not a bad thing. Fortunately, I didn’t learn that one first hand, but I may as well have. It’s been ingrained in me since birth. I have an immense value for a dollar. I eat every morsel of food on my plate… Every. Single. Morsel. I conserve. I don’t waste. I’m most comfortable in sweats, no makeup and being unfancy. And I know that bad things happen for a reason, and we must never ignore the message. […]

    11. Keep posting stuff like this i really like it

    12. confidence is important to a woman

    13. Wow this is a great resource.. I’m enjoying it.. good article

    14. EllaNo Gravatar says:

      Everyone wants to get old but no one wants to be old.
      But there is something what I really appreciate about “getting older”
      There is a moment in your life (around 40) that you can look back on all the things you did in your life and with that knowledge and experiences you can decide what you are going to do.
      Some people call it a midlife crisis. Personally I see and feel it more as a moment of consideration. A moment that you can ask your self: Is this worth living for?

    15. patriciaNo Gravatar says:

      Beautiful. My goal is to take piano up again. I miss it.

    16. Teresa GreenNo Gravatar says:

      You are a motivator of women, Miss Erica. I am off the fence, both feet planted much because of you and the support of my family and friends. You my lady are helping many many women. Keep up the good work. Love your writings.

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