A Woman’s Monthly Period– From a Male Perspective

November 6, 2009 22 Comments TAGS: Kids, Marriage, Motherhood, Relationships, Sex & Sexuality

Ladies, I have decided to shake things up a little. We will now have a new ANONYMOUS MALE Guest Blogger who will show up every so often on this blog. His goal is to explain to us ladies, from a man’s perspective, that men too sit on the fence with many issues. I wanted him to tell us about his life as a great hands-on single dad raising three beautiful kids, and the fence issues that arise for him, but he didn’t want to do it that way. Instead, he wanted to kick off post #1 with another light-hearted point of view.

Here he is, our first MAN ON THE FENCE:

By Male Guest Blogger, Mr. Anonymous

I have been reading your blog, and wandering around the fence for several weeks now, and think there ought to be a male perspective. I will attempt to make my perspective as poignant as possible, so check back for my next guest appearance! Some of the topics I will blog about most women may be unaware of or simply don’t care that they exist in a man’s world. But to us they matter, so therefore, they should matter to you too. :)

For my very first blog post, I thought the subject of a woman’s monthly period would be an ideal subject to tackle. From the time we are little boys, through to teens, then onto adulthood, this issue arises forever, and it’s haunting! Whether it’s your mother, sister, spouse, teacher, nanny or doctor, periods are all over the place! However, to the young male mind, the concept and notion of a period is completely foreign and revolting. It’s amazing how inundated the man’s world has become because of this famous monthly period.

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Everything from “misunderstandings” to irrational behaviour for weeks on end, through to sex, and indeed verbal abuse, can all be blamed on this miracle of humanity. Forget the physical attributes of this issue (blech), the emotional roller coaster us men have to endure during this time, is truly remarkable. Our life revolves around your periods, women! If we are lucky enough to have a week that is period free, sex is possibly great, laughter can fill the home, and a romantic dinner can actually be romantic!

While women feel the compulsion to extol the virtues of their periods, men tremble in fear as to what those five or eight days will be like. We don’t require the announcement to know it’s coming either. When you anticipate the time arriving, make a concerted effort to be in touch with your soul, and think of your role in trying to make your home a better place for your family. Accept that this gift from God comes with strings (no pun intended!) and that you must share and bear the burden of being responsible for your actions. All too often blame is laid on this famous “period” for all of your actions. I even once read that a woman got off for murder because it was blamed on her period! Come on!

Sure there is a surge of emotions, hormones and changes taking place. We men know this is a physiological response. However, doing your best to “keep the ship steady as she goes” is critical to ensuring your family is not subjected to the highs and lows of your special time. All too often the irrational actions during such a time lead to irrational reactions from all who are involved.

To summarize; Love your period, but love it without the rest of the world being forced to love it for you!  If you take a moment to look in the mirror and ask yourself if you’d want to be around someone like this when they are in this state of mind, and the answer is “no,” you have some work to do.

Signed,

Man On The Fence, Mr. Anonymous

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Ladies, do you hate him or love him? Have you learned anything? Give our Man On The Fence some feedback. What topics would you like to see covered from a male perspective? Type away…

    22 Comments

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    2. Caitlin says:

      I’m on my period and you are an asshole. Fuck you and I hope your mother never sees this, because you are a mysoginistic piece of shit dangling from a sad and decrepit ooze of douchery. Your insights are neither intelligent nor interesting, and you will die alone.

    3. Mary says:

      Wow. Our first male perspective and “your period is hard on me” is the best we can do? Duh.

    4. Janet says:

      Loved it !! But then again…when my husband shows me mercy I respond in kind!

    5. it’s not hard to figure out you’re feeling bitchy. i try to tell my husband that i am cranky so he knows just not to engage.

    6. Janet says:

      Mr Anonymous,
      Have you ever had the runs so bad that your stomach cramped up and doubled you over? Now imagine that without being able to relieve yourself in the bathroom to get rid of the cramping and having that feeling for several days.

    7. Mr.Anonymous Man on the Fence says:

      Ladies,
      The idea of giving you a different perspective is to encourage trying another approach. If by reading this,you determine that you will allow the circle of issues to turn, you haven’t opened your heart and mind, to really understanding and growing. If you try something new and then it simply doens’t work, by all means revert back to the way things use to be…..but do try to alter your thinking for the chance to show him you are doing your part, to make life better for both of you. Hopefully he catches on, and it becomes the two way street it ought to be.

    8. Kelly Duffy says:

      I think Mr. Anonymous is spectacular! My husband puts in ear plugs and takes a valium everytime he suspects my monthly visitor is on the way. Bravo Mr. On The Fence guy (or walking around the fence or whatever) for tackling this difficult to fathom subject. Just don’t go home crying when an angry pre-menstrual reader puts a knife in your back due to a hormone surge. JUST KIDDING! Loved him.

    9. Anonymous says:

      Absolutely BRILLIANT!!!! I love that we now have a man’s perspective on things! All of us woman think we know how men tick and I couldn’t disagree more! I think that is why a lot of our relationships don’t work or need work is because of that. I can’t wait to read more and hear more! Kudos to both of you for putting this together for all of us!!!

    10. Fabulous post! This is my first time “on the fence” and I’m lovin’ the read. I’m way past the period years but I kind of think you’re spot on Mr. Anonymous. Some of the greatest laughs today I have with my now adult children were about my “period episode outbursts!” I’d like to think that those hormone days are gone….but my mood swings still appear. Thank god my anonymous man gets an absolute kick out of my emotions….

      Thanks for the perspective!

    11. Anonymous says:

      It was pretty direct and honest. but I like that.

      I think this is a good read for both men and women. The takeaway for men and women should be show some restraint in words/actions when feeling emotional. it’s not hard to figure out you’re feeling bitchy. i try to tell my husband that i am cranky so he knows just not to engage. i work at keeping my mouth shut. It’s been working – at least I think so.

    12. Disgruntled wife says:

      This is interesting. But, my husband could show me a little more appreciation too. Why should I watch my moods every month? He never watches his moods. Should it not be a two way street? What do you think, Mr. man on the fence?

    13. Miss Open says:

      So I guess pulling our tampons out in front of our boyfriends is a no-no?

    14. angry woman on period says:

      Stop pretending to be a woman. You’re a clone. We don’t want you on our team. We hate you. We want our blood on you.

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