How Often Do YOU Have Sex?

November 5, 2009 45 Comments Marriage, Relationships, Sex & Sexuality

Well ladies, I feel like we haven’t covered sex in a while, so we’re well overdue!

Last night after proudly watching my son’s hockey practice, I went to dinner with my baby group girlfriends. It’s very nice; the same group of 8 girls I started a baby group with six years ago, I still dine with on a monthly basis. I always come home with a few good laughs for my hubby. Really.

So, after first exhausting H1N1 talk, we moved onto sex talk. Hmmm. No names of course, but let’s see what a group of 8 girls in their thirties and forties have to say about how often they’re “doin’ it.” Now let’s keep in mind, these are MARRIED women. I imagine if these thirty and forty year olds were single, it would be lot more frequent.

So, how often?

Well, not everyone shared, so actually, I don’t know all 8 answers. But it was a range from, pretty much not existent, to every night, to which I blurted out, “EVERY NIGHT????” And yes, one of them actually, it was the only forty year old in the group, does it every single night! And early in the evening too! They put the kids to bed at 7:30PM,  sex it up a little, and then watch their daily shows on Tivo. Sounds like a nice cozy evening to me, m’ladies!

Most of us fell somewhere in the middle of practically never, to every day– you go girl!  My girlfriends who know me well, know my hubby and I enjoy quite a healthy sex life (I don’t care if my mother or mother-in-law is reading. They’re all for it!). I think it’s both natural and necessary for the well being of a relationship.

So how often are we as a population having sex? Let’s see some stats. Don’t fall off your chairs either way.

Survey says: (loved that show by the way. Family Feud was one of my favorites). There are a few studies out there, but here are the results of a popular one:

  • People have sex an average of 127 times a year. (For those of you poor in math, that’s once in every 2.88 days).
  • Three quarters of those polled are happy with their sex lives.
  • Eastern Europeans (Hungarians, Bulgarians, and Russians) are the most sexually active (150).
  • The countries with the lowest frequency of sex are Japan (37 times per), Malaysia (62) and China (69).
  • Couples living together report having sex 146 times per year.
  • Married couples make love 98 times per year.
  • Single folks are having sex the least at 49 times a year.

So what do you make of these stats? Well firstly, I was really wrong. I imagined single people on the prowl would be having a lot more sex than us married people, but apparently that isn’t so. They’re actually having the least! Another interesting point, couples that merely live together have a hell of a lot more sex than married couples! Duh! Nothing like good old fashioned marriage to kill the sex spark! And finally, I’m not surprised, Europeans are having the most sex. This was no shocker to me. I have been many times, and let me tell you, they do it all there!!

So, my intentions for today’s post were to appeal to the voyeur in all of us. You just have to put a number down, or jot a few sentences down in the comments section below. Don’t tell us your name or email address, post anonymously. If you don’t fill in any info, neither myself nor the world know who you are. Isn’t this fun?

So c’mon and don’t be shy. Tell us, how often are you doing it with your husband, boyfriend, wife, girlfriend, dog?

Until next time, my friends! I wish you some great sex with your partners! How about tonight??

xoxEDxox

    45 Comments

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    2. Dan says:

      …… not willing to accept anything is wrong nor to discuss properly, even professionally. It’s more than the act of intercourse that is missing. Life is busy and allowed to take over now. I’m missing her as a lover and I’m so unhappy. Apparently I’m supposed to feel satisfied but when the giving has become so one sided I struggle to accept that. I love her so deeply but I just feel so smothering now. Sorry, long answer!

    3. Dan says:

      Used to be four or five times a week, now once or twice a month. It’s not just the lack of sex that’s hurting, it’s her lack of interest in me. She says she does love me and does fancy me but it’s just normal at her age, 43. What hurts most is that she tells me I’m not normal and won’t explore what has changed. We’ve been together ten years. All was fine until we married. Somehow, the combination of feeling secure or settled and HRT has dulled her libido. She used to make me feel so special and was happy to do stuff, like a massage, just because. Now she can’t be bothered. She is not willi

    4. rosy palm says:

      Solo sex just seems so less complicated. Always worried about doing it wrong when with someone haha

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    7. Desmond says:

      You guys are doing good so appreciate what you have. With my girl for 2 years and had only like 3-4 times? She hasn’t even got down on me for more than 30 seconds before and complains it’s tiring.

    8. Can't Get Enough says:

      Everyday. Somedays twice.

    9. Sonja says:

      It depends on how much we work. Sometimes once in 14 days, sometimes every night

    10. Carrie says:

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    11. Teah says:

      EVERYTIME WE SEE EACHOTHER !!!! Thats once in 3 days or every day.

    12. Max says:

      I am single and not sure how sex taste like (never been or done whatever you all said up there)
      Oh heck, nobody care.

    13. Daryl says:

      Yes. Statistics. I realy have no faith in them.

    14. Kellie says:

      I have sex everyday with my boyfriend. Some weeks maybe 5 days but never less than that unless I’m on my period. I have a very happy sex life and me and my boyfriend are extremely happy together!

    15. unknown says:

      about once every other week

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